Who do people cheat?

Question

Sometimes i dont just get it ... they mite have a goodlooking partner or spouse but still go around cheating?? why is that so ? does this run in the family?eg. father or mother cheated before the children follow also? yr views plz.

great answers! but do u ever worry about yr other half cheating on you.?? and what will you do if u found out. as for me i dont think i can never ever accept back a man who cheated on me once.. but sometimes u can never know love can make you do stupid things like taking him/her back..

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Yes, love does make you do stupid things, People cheat for a lot of reasons....a lot of the time its because they are unhappy in their current relationships, other times its because they can. Sometimes I do think it has a lot to do with family, etc....If they grow up in an immoral atmosphere, then they are bound to pick up on these things....If they grow up in a family where the father/mother cheats then they are not learning any kind of lessons about love.

Looks have nothing to do with anything. I am a good looking woman. My exhusband had a personality flaw...he grew up in an immoral family atmosphere...he was never taught about real love and loyalty. The woman he used to play around with you would have to call "ugly"...no joke...he was a perverse character, the odder the woman was, the more he was turned on by them. As a matter of fact, the more I learnt about his family background I started to believe it didnt matter whether it was a man or a woman, if he got sexual pleasure from it, then he would go for it.

There are so many reasons why someone "cheats" on their partner. There is no one answer....Only the people involved need to work out whether it is a problem within the relationship or the party who does the cheating has the problem. My ex husband and I had a wonderful sexual relationship, and thats the part that made everything so hard for me to accept. You hear of so many stories where the sex was gone in a long term relationship, but in my case this was not the case. I was so hard on myself for a long time...I always thought there could have been something I could have done/not done to make our marriage work. I realised after quite a few years, that it wouldnt have mattered what I did or didnt do, he was just the way he was and I couldnt have stopped it from happening. When I realised that it wasnt a problem with me, then it made it so much easier for me to put the blame where it belonged.

Answer 3

Just goes to show that looks aren't everything. And sometimes it does run in the family because the parents didn't set very good examples. Children learn from example more than talk. Sometimes men go elsewhere to find someone that doesn't take them for granted. Or someone to communicate with that doesn't always think he is wrong. Lots of times if the wife lets herself get too comfortable in the relationship, she will let her looks go also. She will walk around all the time in old clothes and not make herself up properly. Some men are just born cheaters, your job is to get one that isn't and treat him in a way that he doesn't want to go anywhere else. Before people are married or in what they think is a secure relationship, they wouldn't be caught with they re hair not washed or combed in front of the man they want. They work to stay slim or loose weight. Then when they are married they let the weight pile on. They think the marriage license is a lock on the man. This lock can be broken and it wont make the man stay home.

Answer 4

When one cheats, then it is a sign that he/she is no longer enjoying the other partner's love play.This is the general view; however,we have others who cheat because their sex drive is above normal or some who cheat for economic reasons.I do not think cheating can run in the family in a genetical sense but can through copying those around you and again one will have weighed the advantages of such a folly.I think people resort to cheating their partners for selfish reasons and this act is carried out by both males and females and statistically the females seem to be on the forefront.

Answer 5

People cheat because they can't control themselves. In today's society, it's become no big deal, except to the person who's innocent in it all. One thing that I have learned about someone who cheats is that THEY have the issue, not the innocent partner. No matter how much the partner may feel that it's their fault, IT ISN'T! I have seen people lose weight, change their appearances, change the way they act etc. just because they think that it will stop their partner from cheating. But it doesn't work. Look at Halle Berry. She's beautiful, rich, and famous, yet her husband cheated on her. Was it something she did? No...It's because her husband has issues. So, if someone cheats, don't take it personal. Move on, because there are plenty of fish in the sea who will be loving, loyal, and faithful.

Answer 6

Looks have nothing to do with a person cheating. Men are genetically inclined to cheat. Men can impregnate many women a day where women can only get pregnant once in a nine month period. It is nature for men to spread their seed. For men, sex and love have nothing to do with each other so they just go out and get some on the side and still plan on being married. They still love their wife. Women are emotional beings and will cheat because they are missing something. Their plan might be to move on out of the relationship/marriage with the new men. Women really need to learn how men think and they would alter their actions with men. Although a man might tell a mistress he loves her, he has not plans on being with that women and most likely just thinks of her as a whore. A man will tell a woman anything to get sex.

Answer 7

I think sometimes people fall in love with ideas of things. Some people live in fantasy and trust me..marriage..long term relationship is beautiful, but not like the fantasies they show in movies. I dont quicver at the touch of my husband anymore..but no other man could please me more. I think people who cheat maybe like this, where they want the skin quivers again..or they are chasing some romance scene in a movie that will never happen. I once knew a guy who had "mommy issues" and I could sware he was taking his anger at his mom out on the girls he used and abused through cheating...one after the other. Maybe they have no self resepect and are searching for some happiness through sex. I dunno..these are my guesses

Answer 8

Although i do think parents are the role models in childrens lives, and children when they grow up tend to imitate what they were raised around.. i dont think thats the sole reason why people cheat..

Men 90% of the time cheat because they are physical creatures.. and tend to lust after what they havent conquered yet.. some of the most beautiful women in the world have been cheated upon.. its nothing more then well they've had them, they want something new (these are only men that are little boys trapped in mens bodies and are thinking with the head in their pants and not the one on their shoulders) most men that cheat it isnt for the emotional attachment, it for the excitement and conquering their quest..

Women that cheat 90% of them do it because women are mostly emotionally driven , usually when a woman cheats its because they are filling a void in them that their spouse isnt, or they miss.. most women that cheat, another man comes into their life and shows them alot of attention, listens to their feelings, makes them feel like they are special again , and sexy again, something most of them havent felt from their husbands for along time.. so its more the emotional needs of being with another man that drives her to cheat instead of physical needs.. (but women that cheat are no better then men that cheat both lack morals and values and have zero respect for their vows)

Answer 9

I was married for 10 yrs. He cheated on me from thee start. In 5 yrs. he was with 9 others. I never caught him, he told me along with th abuse. His father did it to his mother. Love does make you do stupid things. I took him back a total of 5 times in 20 yrs. Now I can only pray that my boys don't turn out like him. Even though I'm not with him I still hold a love for him deep inside..

Answer 10

Some people say that if you love someone, you wouldn't cheat on them. Not True! When people cheat, it's because something is missing in that relationship and they found it in another person. Whether it's personality, looks, making you laugh, or just a good time. It's wrong to cheat but all people that cheat are not terrible peopel. You can love someone very much and still cheat on them.

Answer 11

I think my partner cheated because she has always had an emptiness within her from lack of a loving father...I'd known of her previous social behavior seemed to lend itself to such a thought, but I thought that was a plus on my side, I thought I could fill that void...but after 20 years of marriage I could recognize that it had revealed itself once again...believe me, I tried to figure out how to fill that with all that I knew and through counseling but she chose to look elsewhere, because of these circumstances, not necessarily just because of the betrayal, I understood that, but still couldn't say that she had overcome such a need and divorced her...we are still very close and good friends, since I have known her since grade school but couldn't continue in a relationship wondering when, not if, but when she would cheat again.