Where do I start. Well first of all I need advice about what to do with my b/f. We have been together for 5 months well we seen each other before that and I am 5 months pregnant with his child. But the whole time I have been with him has been hell he wont stop talking to his ex g/f I caught him yesterda again. He has told me that he don't want to lose me and he would stop but he hasn't and I don't believe him at all anymore. He has been treating me like crap here lately and I am so stressed out. I just don't knwo what to I don't want to lose my baby and I feel that if I stay with him I will. I love him but I don't think he loves me. He has also told me that he kissed her back in may and that was not what I wanted to hear but I thought ok maybe he will change when we move but it didn't ever stop and now I am stuck somewhere where I don't have family or friends. I also have 2 little girls and I know they aren't happy so I am just asking advice on what to do.
2006-08-24 01:50:00 · 17 answers · asked by love_me_not1982 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, this is a hard situation, given the fact that you are pregnant by this guy. You've only been with him 5 months and is 5 months pregnant, first mistake, but thats neither here nor there. Chances are that he is not in love with you, your relationship is still very new, he may care about you though. If he is still seeing or talking to his ex, he is not over her, which is okay, but he needs to be respectful of your feelings, you are having his child. I would sit down and have a real heart to heart with him, and if you don't see an improvement then you're going to have to do what you have to, not only for you but for you kids as well.
If he is treating you like crap now and your carrying his child, I can't imagine what he is going to treat you like afterwards.
If you really want the relationship stay, but you need to remember that this is not only hurting you its hurting your kids, your words "my little girls aren't happy."
You can do bad by yourself and bad is a whole lot better than worse. You feel me.
2006-08-24 02:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am familiar with that question. My answer is if you and your kids are unhappy and he is not making you feel that he loves you then leave. I know its hard because you are pregnant right now, but don't stay with someone who treats you bad. If he loved you he would not be putting you thru this stress knowing that you are carrying his baby. He seems like he is trying to have his cake and eat it to. Since he is having such a hard time leaving his ex let them be together, remove yourself from that mess. Girl call your family and ask them to help you move back close to them. I have three kids and am a single mom. My last baby dad is in prison for I don't know how long so I have learned that sometimes all you have is your family. Don't let him bring you down. You stay strong and think about you beautiful girls and baby on the way. We are strong black women we will make it!!!!!!!!!!!! I will pray for you.
2006-08-24 09:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly whilst you are still with your boyfriend you may as well use him while he is using you.He knows that you are in a situation that you have nobody there for you and the circumstance you are now in, he thinks you wont go anywhere.Make your children and yourself happy and leave the dog. He is not setting a very good example in front of the children either if he is treating you badly. Find another accommodation while you are still with him as you need somewhere to go for the sake of your children and yourself. If he tells you he will change he is a liar as he couldn't even do this for you now and you are now with his child. good luck to you all! I'm sure you know what is the best thing the do for yourselves.
2006-08-24 09:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need this stress. Leave him and fast. Everyone is unhappy and it's doing more harm than good by staying. If you won't leave for yourself, leave for the sake of your kids. What your girls are seeing now is teaching them that it is ok for men to treat them like sh*t. I know being pregnant and alone is scary but as long as you have your children, all will be ok.
2006-08-24 09:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have made decisions that are wrong.why have you had sex with any man that treats you this way? why? how can you feel love for a person who treats you so badly? how? that is like being in love with your molester. look you are not only screwing up your life you are creating children who will look to you for guidance and what are you showing them???how to allow oneself to treated worst than one would treat a dog??? how can you be so upset and ask what to do??? you do what's best for you and those children. love is not a noun ,love is a verb. if he doesn't treat you like you feel you should be treated get the he** out. it doesn't take a high school diploma to know when you are being mistreated. get up and make better decisions,stop allowing sex to drive your life.
2006-08-24 09:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you and your children's sake.. I say leave him. He is obviously trying to have the best of both worlds and that doesn't work. He doesn't seem to love you enough to stop talking with his ex when he knows it stresses you out and is therefore dangerous to you and his unborn child... cut your losses and get out before it's to late.
2006-08-24 09:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get out of the relationship you cant make someone love you that doesnt he doesnt want to be there for you he's looking for a free ride....you can do it on yourself get out and make some new friends there are ppl everywhere....you have to explore you options...losing a child's life for you "mate" isn't worth anything in this world. You should focus on you and what is best for YOU and your children..not what's best for him...dont be unhappy...only you can change things to make them better
2006-08-24 08:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Chandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother ,if the kids arent happy .then make a change.move.do what you have to do.you say your not happy either.this is not a healthy relationship.he has no respect.if he chooses to be a part of this unborn baby's life then fine but dont hold your breath on him changing because of this new baby.move towards family who will help you.
2006-08-24 09:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, please get out NOW! the whole " yeah, maybe one day he will change one day" thing will never happen.
I know you're having his kid now but in the long run it's not gonna help he's just gonna make you and your children miserable.
Good luck
2006-08-24 09:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by julsgene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alrtight, dump him. Girl, if you hang out with people like that, your going to go downhill. That man, oh, excuse me, BOY does not deserve your time nor patience or understanding. Call the police and leave him, please. Good luck with it all, and God bless you.
2006-08-24 08:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Read n' Write 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋