What if you met someone and they only had up to say 15 years life because of illness. What if you met someone as a friend who would die within a year. Would you go ahead anyway or would you avoid getting close........?
2006-08-24 01:39:47 · 47 answers · asked by Ã?â?¥Ã?ÄPixie Queen~* 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
sure i would - i could get run over by a truck tomorrow
2006-08-24 01:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by 42 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is dying from the moment they are born.
You never know what will happen, why deprive them and yourself of a friendship/relationship because of an illness?
I think it would be selfish not to get close, if you wanted to, after all would you want to regret not knowing that you could have helped in some tiny way?
Caring for someone is oftern very difficult and time consuming. However all the carers I have ever met have said they would never not have looked after the person. It's the reward of being there and being able to help.
Take a look at a website and films I've made at www.wirralcarers.co.uk
i hope it works out!
2006-08-24 01:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Wilf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't hesitate starting/maintaining a friendship with a terminally ill individual, though I'd probably always have it in the back of my mind that the person would not be around very long. I can't say for sure if or how that would impact my role in the friendship.
Awful as it sounds, I doubt I'd enter into an intimate relationship with a terminally ill person. I could be their friend, but I don't know if I could start a relationship knowing ahead of time it would end. People will argue that any of us could be taken down at any time and that's true, but that's not the same as knowing today that your loved one will be taken from you in xx years, and that you have little-to-no chance of growing old together. I'm sure that will sound cold to many because everyone deserves the chance to love and be loved, but then I guess you have to decide how much heartbreak you can handle before you take the plunge.
Check out the (old) movie Dark Victory with Bette Davis. The story is very much along the lines of your question.
2006-08-24 01:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would go out of my way to make sure my new friend had fun - I would feel happy to know my new friend. It wouldn't stop me starting a relationship with the person or being a friend. My heart is open to all. I knew a girl that had cancer and she told me the story of a boy that she had befriended after all his friends deserted him. No way would I ever not start a friendship or relationship just because someone has a disability, disfigurement or terminal illness.
2006-08-27 16:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would still get to know them. Life is too short for picking and choosing the people you become friends with. You could get run over crossing the street, have a heart attack or die in your sleep for what ever reason. Make the most of life and live it to the full. You never know when it's going to end. People who meet along the way just make all that bit better.
2006-08-24 01:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tuppence 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you want people to avoid you because you knew you were sick and going to die? Of course not, if the person is worth getting to know, then the time doesn't much matter. It would be difficult knowing that your friend wouldn't always be there, but it could end up being the richest relationship that you'll ever have.
2006-08-24 01:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a hard decision to make because having to let go of someone you care about is a VERY hard thing to do. But, I would start a relationship & friendship because life is too short to take life & people for granted. Honestly, though...I'm really not sure unless I was put in that situation. I would hope I could be strong enough to give compassion & friendship to someone dying. To refuse would be selfish on my part.
2006-08-24 01:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course not, if they were my kind of person i would spend time with no matter how long they had to live. A truly special friendship or relationship that only lasts 5 months is more valuable than a meaningless one that lasts forever. People who touch your heart in some way are precious.
2006-08-24 01:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by driving_me_crazy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would start the relationship/ friendship. You could share some happy times with them and have wonderful thoughts for the rest of your life. You never know your love and friendship mite give them a few more years to live. People do say that love is the best medicine.
2006-08-24 01:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sianie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's really a sad question...
Personally, if my friend's gonna die within the year, i'll make use of our time together dearly. I can't leave her feeling bad becasue i didn't show that person how much I really, really love him or her and how much I care and how thankful I am for having him or her in my life. And s/he can't leave me without knowing how I feel and without enjoying life to its fullest with me or with her loved ones before s/he leaves.
Okay, i'm a bit dramatic right now but life's really short, so let's live life to the fullest and say thanks to all the people we love =)
2006-08-26 03:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what the person suffers from, if you love them then that's all that matters. You've made their life happy and they've made yours happy just by being together and sharing a life.
It's not easy knowing that they are ill but having a good laugh and spending your time as precious makes the pain go away. I met my partner with Emphysema and haven't looked back since.
2006-08-24 01:44:24 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋