is it better to have loved and lost or never to have loved?

Question

was shakespeare right?

Answer 1

As much as it hurts to lose the one you loved, out of the whole experience you get to learn what its like to be loved and cared for.
And these days everyone is going on about being in love, and if you havent been in love, well your losing a whole experience all together!
Although you do get the side effect of being hurt when you lose your loved, in the future when your lonely and thinking to yourself about the good times, that person will prop up in your mind and you smile.
If you havent loved, what is there for you to smile about?

Answer 2

This is SUCH a difficult question! Very thought provoking. I've recently split with my fella after a six year relationship, no-one else involved or anything like that, just major personal problems on his side that I couldn't deal with anymore.
Anyway, we still love each other very much, and that experience over the last six years has been one I would not have liked to miss out on. Loving someone and being loved in return is such a special thing and can make you 'whole', for want of a better phrase. But losing that love? So heartbreaking - my life feels ripped apart at the moment, even though it was me who ended it. So would it have been better never to have loved him? Right now, maybe yes. But it's true that time is a great healer and eventually this hurt and anguish will go. I know then that I will simply have wonderful memories of our time together.
So, in a nutshell! Yes, it is better to have loved and lost - I wouldn't have missed it for the world. Sue xx

Answer 3

Shakespeare was a vein and dull individual who was wrong, wrong, wrong.

If you have never loved then you can't miss what you haven't had and even when you do miss it, that's only because you get bored a bit quicker and worry about current affairs more.

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Answer 4

Yes, he was right, and here's why... It is in fact better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, simply because it can be seen as a learning experience. How else can someone truly know what love is, if they have never experienced it. Granted the loss can be overwhelming, and maybe sometimes we would wish we had never loved. But we can use the informtion gained from the experience, to make the next love all that much better, and you can only hope to not suffer the same loss a second time.

Answer 5

No0dle,personally,i think it is better to have loved.It brings the feeling of comfort and content,knowing that somebody got your back in everything that you do.Have you been loved by somebody?This love could be from your family or from a relationship you had with the opposite sex.Do you realize how happy and light-hearted you are when you are involved lovingly,don't care from a good picnic with your family or a nice date with your boyfriend.Why would anybody think that to lose a loved one would be better than to have love?The pain of losing somebody you love is devastating.You know your heart just lose it and you shed tears that you know won't bring your loved ones back.But this is just the feeling of losing.What about the feeling of missing our loved ones that comes next?Now,that is a killer.Then,we tend to regret and feel guilty for not treating our loved ones better.Why would anyone want that?Never to have love?It is a pity you know if there is anyone in this position right now.This would result the person to blame God for not letting him savour the richness of life when others around him are getting a chance to do so.He would be prejudice.Condemn love and be an anti-social,fall into depression and eventually commit suicide.Tell me,who think that is better than to have love.Just remember this;it takes you no time to fall in love but it would take you years to know what love is.

Answer 6

I would have to say loved and lost.

While you don't need to be part of a pair to find happiness or find out who you are, it does make you a stronger person. It may hurt like hell at the time but later on you can look back and learn from the experience or just remember it fondly.

For a while you were happy with the person and while you may be unhappy without him/her it obviously isn't right for either of you or you'd still be together.

Losing someone hurts like hell but it really isn't the end of the world (though it may feel like it at the time)

Answer 7

The experiences we all have in life be it love or other things are what form our personalities,love is wonder full while it lasts but if it ends it hurts like hell, in time we do move on and that experience enriches our lives,So if you went through life frightened to do or experience things what a sad person you would be, the statement must be right and what a clever man he was to have understood that.

Answer 8

He was so right...
To have loved and lost means that you have LIVED!!!!
Never having been in love must feel the same as never having been alive...the extreme highs and lows that being in love can bring cannot be equalled by any other experience on earth..

Answer 9

to truly experience love is a great feeling. some people have the pleasure of that more then once in their lives. to lose that love is like getting your heart ripped out but you learn. dwell on the feelings that you had when in love and search out someone to bring those feelings out again.
never dwell on the hurt it was a learning experience like falling and getting hurt', you know you just need to be more careful next time
i have gone through the hurt more then once and have been successful in finding love again and its has been worth the hurt.

Answer 10

Never at all. It hurts so bad to lose your love. So people say that, and they should try it. I feel lost every day. My love is gone.