2006-08-24 01:19:30 · 23 answers · asked by kirby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If my husband came into our marriage with a female friend, I wouldn't have a problem with that. If there was anything between them, I wouldn't be in the picture!
If my husband became close friends with a woman while married to me, yes, I would have a serious problem with that.
2006-08-24 01:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok as long as it stays with in the boundries of friendship.
I do not want her calling him and talking on the phone for an hour,and I do not want any flirting between the two of them regardless of how harmless It is.oh who am I kidding,he has female co-workers maybe 2 but that is as far as their relationship goes,I guess I am just a jeolous person I figure If there is no best friend of the opposite sex then there is not the opportunity for feelings to develope,and No I am not insecure where he is concerned I have had some relationships turn sour because of a female that was just a friend.and I have been the best friend of the opposite sex and I know what can happen with out meaning for it to happen.
2006-08-24 01:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel anything against my mate's having a best friend of the opposite sex. When you call someone your bestfriend, I'm sure that this friendly relationship was not built overnight but through long years of association with each other.
And one's having a serious romantic relationship with someone should not let such friendship to end just like that. The mate of such person with bestfriend from the opposite sex should understand this and accept it with maturity.
2006-08-24 01:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intellectually, there should be no problem at all with that. But that's the easy answer. I know it would bother me to some degree, although I'd know enough not to even mention it to my husband, since he'd think I didn't trust him. In my particular case, I know that my husband wouldn't think it proper to have a best friend of the opposite sex. He wouldn't encourage such a relationship, knowing that it might hurt me.
2006-08-24 01:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem at all. I've been married over 20 years. My best friend is a guy. My husband has a close female friend. That is all it is. What difference does it make if there is no sex involved? It's called a friendship.
2006-08-24 01:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear kirby,
A good friend has no gender requirements.
If your mate is what he should be this is immaterial. This is to say,honorable,faithful,loyal,and really in love with you. It's normal for you however to have some reservations.
If you really want to test his loyalty. Ask a trustworthy friend of your sex to come onto him.
She should be someone he does not know or hardly knows. When she reports back to you; then you will be sure.
2006-08-24 02:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm ok with it as long as I have no doubt there's anything going on (physically or emotionally). My bf's best friend is a girl and I have no prob with it. Actually having a best friend of the opposite sex has it's benefits. They are able to give great advise to my bf when we have probs. They get him to understand a woman's point of view when most men simply don't get it.
2006-08-24 01:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a problem if my mate has friends of the opposite sex i have confidence in myself and i am not insecure about the relationship i have trust in the person.
2006-08-24 01:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about your mate, if they are trustworthy or not...mine has always had best friends of the opposite sex...after many many years together she crossed that line with one of them...sure he smooth talked her but ultimately it was her decision to fall for such seductive suggestion...what else can you do but trust they are faith full and honest.
2006-08-24 02:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of female (close) friends, and my wife has many close friends who are male...I don't have a problem with it, and I don't think she has either...If it became a problem in anyway I think I would just tell her how much I love her, and reassure her that no one is above her in my eyes. I cant control how others feel, only how I do.
2006-08-24 01:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋