Me an my bf have been 2gethr 4 bout 2 years. He recently told me dat he is in love with his female best frend an has made love 2 her. Why did this happen?
2006-08-24 00:51:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2006-08-24 22:43:54 · update #1
Because she is better in the sack than you?
2006-08-24 00:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by 2BaD4u 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
As I have tried to point out before, most of the time when people use the word love they do not mean love as it is defined. Infatuation and lust is what it is more than love. Those passion feelings and the intense activity when two get together is not love. This can be part of love but is not love in it's self. This kind of love as people call it does not last unless real caring and friendship goes with it. Especially when young it is normal to go through several relationships to learn just what that part of life is all about. Some continue this pattern all their lives. I am not saying this is wrong but only that is how it is with some. A faithful long term partner is not easy to find. That kind of relation ship has to be based on caring and real friendship. The two have to truly like each other no matter what. Heart break is also a part of the learning process.
2006-08-24 01:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not have been aware that he was bisexual. It happens like that sometime. Or maybe he wanted to be one or the other and tried with all his might to be what you wanted and just couldn't. I am a bisexual and I am married. I was in denial about my bisexuality for a long time. I didn't want to be attracted to men. I fell deeply in love with my wife and only had eyes for her and got married thinking the homosexual urges was just a phase but after a few years they resurfaced stronger than ever. I struggled with it for years and after 20 years of living with my wife I accepted the fact that I am bisexual and my needs suddenly became more manageable I matured I know this is my life and I have to live it the way I see fit. My family is important to me and my wife would divorce me if she knew I wanted to luv on a dude so I will not ever come out. I will stay closeted and keep my desires in check. It is still very hard but as I said I have been at this for 20 years. Not really and issue now.
2006-08-24 02:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to give an advice which you dont experience yet. But still for some reason I will still share my thoughts..
Life is very tricky..you dont know what will happen next..and so with love..
I guess the only reason why your boyfriend and his bestfriend ended together is that they simply have chemistry..
For a long time they were best of friends, they laugh with same joke and they cry with sad memories..
Sometimes friendship could lead to relationship..its proven many times..
2006-08-24 00:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by bebs03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he never told you that he was Bi.
It does happen, and issues like this are the reason many people don't become involved with bisexual people. It's nothing against them personally, it's just an issue of dealing with being left for someone you can't compete with..(as if there is an issue if "competing")
2006-08-24 00:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know darling, it happens that way, whether you're straight, bi, gay lesbian whatever, what he has done is cheat on you and what makes it harder for you to accept that it was with a woman, I can understand that...
I'm sorry that you have had to go through this, but try to move on take the experiences of your relationship (good and bad) and try to move on in a healthy and positive way
Good Luck
2006-08-24 00:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heard this happening before. Very good chance he is bisexual. It happened because he thought he could get away with it. He was not being totally honest with you. I don't know what else to say. When this type of thing happens, it is good that you vent out some of this here, in a safe place.
2006-08-24 04:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you had written in English. It would have been easier to understand.
Your B/f may be experimenting with his other sexual side- it appears that he's bi. You may or not get back together - and it's unfair that he just left you hanging like that - but it's time to decie if you want to take the chance or not. If he cheated on you once..........
2006-08-30 00:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of things, he could be telling you that just to end your relationship, and had no other excuses. (could have grown apart) He could honestly be in love with her. Hard to give you an answer based on the small amount of info? Either way it is time for you to move forward, not backwards.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 00:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Harley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because men and women are supposed to have sex. Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve.
Although I sympathise with the pain that you are feeling and want you to know that Jesus is the answer for all of your hurt.
2006-08-24 01:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus freak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even gay guys need to experiment. Let him sort things out for himself. All you can do is be as loving as you can and make sure he knows you are there for him once he realizes you are his true love
2006-08-24 03:23:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋