I'd been going out with someone from my group of friends. We split up (fairly amicably) and I started seeing someone else - not a mutual friend. Since then, I've been ostracised from the group, with some of them explaining it is too awkward for me to be invited to things, even without my new partner, which I have found hurtful. A year on, when I have made new friends, they are starting to contact me again and I'm not sure how I feel about it.
Is it petty to want nothing more to do with them, after I feel I was treated so harshly and they've made it clear my new partner is still not welcome? Or am I being over-sensitive?
2006-08-24 00:18:20 · 17 answers · asked by Vic M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the fact that you, have asked this question, you are still hurting and rightly so, and you do know how you feel, its acting how you feel , is your problem , you are a decent person,..yes.! your new partner, is your priority..walk away, they have no values.! Rules for the Rich.....Rules for the poor...the bottom line, walk away and stay away..! confirmation you needed , now you got it.. R
2006-08-24 00:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by hacketpuss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True friends would not choose and behave in this manner...they would also give your new partner a chance and invite her to the group. You have every right to feel as you do, don't throw away your new friendships get on with your life and be happy with your new, talk to these people if you wish but keep them at a distance as they are no longer a part of your life, however if they cant accept your partner for i assume no valid reason are these the type of people you should have in your life ? even if the relationship you are in now were to end, would they treat your new partner the same?
2006-08-24 00:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by felicitym2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your former friends have acted like assholes, and continue to do so. Apart from anything else, by renewing acquaintances now under the conditions they are imposing, you risk ostracising your new partner, who is unlikely to take kindly to being excluded from social gatherings involving a group of so-called friends that don't want him there him, not to mention your ex.
Friendship should not come with conditions attached.
2006-08-24 01:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they had been TRUE friends, they would not have ostracised you in this manner.
I know it is hurtful - the same thing happened to me before.
If you have made new friends now and are happy with your life, tell them that you are not interested - especially if they are not prepared to welcome your current partner. Tell them you have made some real friends now and wish to move on.
Perhaps by telling them the truth now, this will prevent them doing the same thing to someone else in the group.
2006-08-24 02:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being over sensitive. They want to be your friends BUT they do not like your bf? Please! They must feel like they are doing this great sacrifice for you and you must be grateful to them!
Ha! Make them clear that you and your bf stick together and that if they do not accept this, they are not your friends. Besides, you have a new friendship now right?
2006-08-24 00:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by narcissa_bl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to be friends with you, they need to take you with your new boyfriend. If they still cannot accept that you have moved on, then I'd forget about them.
You can always talk to them on the phone and be polite to them, but they have shown their true colors. I wouldn't trust them with too much information.
You never know, maybe they are just being nosey about your life.
If you feel uncomfortable about it, then don't be friends with them. Always trust your instincts..
2006-08-24 00:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Keep your pride and never give in. Things would not be the same anyway. You should move on and if they ever get back in touch with you then treat them like dump!
2006-08-24 00:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by mick241602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer end the friendship. the perfect comparable ingredient befell with me and my suitable pal. She continuously left out me (she did no longer understand what she became doing) and continuously frolicked with all her different friends. I instructed her many situations, and he or she apologized and suggested she might try tougher, yet she on no account did. So i eventually gave up and hated her, and he or she gave up on me. After some months certainly one of friends stumbled on me sitting on my own and that i instructed her what became incorrect, and he or she suggested she might circulate seek advice from her. each and every so often the different guy or woman has to pay attention the comparable ingredient from certainly one of their different friends until now the message gets throughout the time of. She had some somewhat large concepts, and that i attempted them, and now my different pal and that i are suitable friends back. i will't even have self belief I hated her as much as I did. try going as much as him and basically asserting "hi" like no longer something befell, get to slot in along with his different friends (that's what I did, now they are all my friends too). and in spite of in the event that they nonetheless forget approximately approximately you each and every so often (my pal nonetheless has a tendency to try this). are not getting all mad, it somewhat is possibly basically of their character. For me, basically status around my pal is sufficient, i do no longer pick her to be easily focused on ME. believe me, I easily have adventure.
2016-09-29 22:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your pride up high, girl. don't let them put you down. you're old enough to know what's right and wrong. You were treated badly just because you had a new friend. So you don't need them. If they did it to you once, they'l do it again.
2006-08-24 00:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not petty at all
they should be apologising for a whole year for leaving u
u have every right 2 hate them!!!!
2006-08-24 00:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by vetwannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋