Do you think just kissing is a form of cheating or do you think that full penertrative sex is cheating?
The reason I ask is because my sister doesn't think that being given Oral sex by someone other than your partner is cheating, whereas I think it is.
I figure that some people have a different idea of what cheating is than others. What do you think?
2006-08-24 00:01:54 · 36 answers · asked by ♥ Nicola ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there are different levels of cheating I think, you can cheat even emotionally, having feeling for someone else and not even touching them to me is a form of not being faithful. To me talking dirty on the phone or computer is a form also. Tell your sister to think of it this way would she want her boyfriend to do those things with other girls? How would it make her feel?
2006-08-24 01:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by amylynn31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And there was I thinking that this was going to be about reading the other guy's poker hand ... :)
If you're committed to a monogamous relationship, some cultures consider any sort of intimacy between a partner and someone who is not their other half to be cheating. That includes seemingly innocent activities such as going out to the cinema or crazy golf with the "other woman", say, or the girl going shopping with the "other guy". In other words, if the love cheat is going out on what look suspiciously like dates with someone other than their partner, there's usually grounds for suspicion there.
Then there's kissing. Kissing, in Western culture, is regarded as an opening to further intimate relations. Specifically, full lip kissing, usually prolonged (smooching or snogging). If tonguing happens, then this is taken as an indicator that the people are willing and ready to initiate sexual activities. In the West, a snog means that the couple have either just crossed the line, or they're already way past that stage and onto the breaking their relationship promises across the knee good and hard stage.
An affectionate peck on the cheek, on the other hand, could be anything, from air kisses to greeting relatives or, if you're from a European country like France or Italy, it is a standard greeting, even between men. Pecks on the cheek are harmless.
But a full blown smooch with or without tongues - in the West, consider this as iron clad proof of hanky panky.
You mentioned oral sex. Hand jobs, oral sex, even non-contact partial undress or watching porn videos together without physical contact - it's cheating, pure and simple. What your sister said about oral sex not being sex is known as the Clinton Defence, and it's a pretty shady (not to mention shoddy and downright flimsy) excuse to try and wriggle out of the fact that it's still cheating by any other name, no matter how many former US Presidents say it isn't.
2006-08-24 00:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think kissing or oral sex or anything to do with sex is cheating when you are involed with someone else. I also think that if a guy has kissed a girl when you were with him and he told you and he wont stop talking to her I do believe that is cheating always. See I think there is 2 types of cheating one is mental and one is phsical.That is what I think about cheating because I am getting cheated on.
2006-08-24 01:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by love_me_not1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually had this conversation with my partner last night; I dont consider a drunken snog with a random person cheating (unless its done in front of your partner) although if it is with someone that you knew before then it is cos there could be something more there. My partner however, considers any physical contact other than a quick peck on the lips cheating.
but the oral sex thing is definatly cheating! I would go ballistic if my guy had some chick do that to him.
2006-08-24 00:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by ladyjinx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating. Recently my partner found out I'd emailed someone I'd met, and they considered that to be cheating. Emotional infidelity is still considered to be cheating, as the other person resents an intimacy you have with someone else.
Look at it this way, if the situation was reversed, how would you feel if your partner was having oral sex with someone else? Betrayed? Then yes, it is cheating.
2006-08-24 00:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Vic M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its cheating if you do have sexual contact or kiss another person if you are in a monogamous relationship, all the ground rules should be set beforehand with each other if you are going to have an open relationship... but if you love someone and found out they had performed oral sex on another person or recieved it that is cheating too......some people do have different ways at looking at cheating but i think that if you and your partner are honest, trusting and relaxed with each other you wouldn't need to cheat.......
2006-08-24 00:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by fossil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think kissing is cheating so oral would be a definate yes!!! Would she think it ok if her boyfriend was giving head to another girl?? If she doesn't think she is cheating then she should have no problem telling her boyfriend that someone else gave her oral. Ask her to tell him and see what she says then!! Bet she wont.
2006-08-24 00:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by cheryl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well any 'sexual' relationship with a member of the opposite sex (or I suppose same sex) is cheating on your partner so if she is gettin or giving oral sex then she is cheating on her partner.
This is despite Clinton's definition of sexual relationships!!
2006-08-24 01:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by 1919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you do from that stand point that doesn't involve your partner is cheating. Even touching someone is cheating in my book. She dont think it is cheating b/c she knows she is wrong.
2006-08-24 00:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you, oral sex is sex, and sex with someone else when you're already in a relationship is cheating.
2006-08-24 00:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋