they say...it is on the rise......
we live in a world of how can i reduce the time it takes. this is from, fast food, shopping, phone calls, internet speed, you name it we have tried to cut our loss of time.
my question....is marriage becoming the same way? make it or break it.........just don't waste my time?
and is it a bad thing?
2006-08-23 23:55:05 · 8 answers · asked by rock 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is a ad thing it affects the way our society will continue, ever notice it isn't typically the smart people having children? Our society is a throw away world and that mentality always spills into our most solid of unions. Don't give up there are a few of us that believe in lasting love and in marriage.
2006-08-23 23:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fast paced world that we have become accustom to is slowly killing us! Everyone has to do more things in less time, make more money, get nicer things, go to nicer places, drive nicer cars etc.....
But when in reality, we are so busy from trying to make all these things happen that we barely have time to sleep let a lone enjoy them or our families!
What is truly wrong with the world is that we have lost sight of what is truly important and that is our spouse and our children!
When all is said and done, who helped you get to where you are now? Who is it that supports you and stands by you no matter what? Your spouse and children!
So why is it then that they receive so little of our time?
When we can get back to the good old days, when you could take a man at his word and people knew how to slow down and relax and enjoy their families, the world will be a happier and nicer place to live, though this will never be the case!
Woman/Men in general are too worried about keeping up with the Jones, to be worried about getting involved with their kids and making sure that they have a good education and stay out of trouble! And if spouses would be more concerned with each other, than getting ahead and impressing the boss, then there would probably be alto less divorce in this country and less children in Juvenile Detention!
We need to get back to the basics our having a family!
Under God, your spouse comes first then your children, then your job etc.....
God help the day that we are too busy for Him as well!
I hope this is what you were looking for! Good luck and God bless!
2006-08-24 03:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a bad thing. People run at such a fast pace, with both parties working, that they dont want to take the time to work things out. If they cant solve there problems in 2 minutes or less, then they dont want to work it out. As my beliefs have been made known, I beleave that marriage is becoming a sham. We need to slow down in general, and go back to basics. We need to cut out the crap. Just carve it out, get away from everything we think we need that we dont really need. People think that they have to have all of this stuff to make there life better, easier, but have we noticed that nothing tastes as good, feels as good, or comfortable as it did at say your grandmothers house????? I'll tell you why, because Grandma came from a time, when they did'nt do anything half assed, where they put everything they had or were into it. thats where were different, we dont care to put everything we have into it. We dont feel or think we have time. We feel that its a waste of time to actually make things work. We dont feel that we have time to spend with our significant other, thats how we are now raising our children, thats how our children will raise there children, by the time our great grandchildren come along, marriage will probably be gone forever. So yes, it is a bad thing, because not only are we hurting ourselves, but our society as well. (its also why we have so many health problems, mental problems, and so on so fourth)
I will now step down off of my soap box and say thank you.
2006-08-24 00:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by addybme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its on the rise, i think people don't want to waste time anymore and making things work, that's work. To some it is easier just to let go and find someone else. Its sad, i think to many get involved for the wrong reasons, they are bored and feel they need someone or they feel like they are not a whole person without having someone there beside them...I think people need to take more than a few weeks to decide if they are going to marry someone and they need to wait till the are financial stable and i mean both sexes so if something happened to their partner they are able to take care of them self...Love doesn't pay the rent or put food on the table...
2006-08-24 00:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that I think about it, it makes perfect sense. In the world today, like you stated, we're trying to get everything done more quickly and as efficiently as possible. In the mix of that, we're as quick with our significant others and don't take the time that is needed to supply good communication that is essential in marriage. As a result, the foundations of the marriage begin to crumble.
2006-08-24 00:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once we discussed this issue & here what we concluded:
Today marraiges have become a more of a "Memorandum of Understanding ( MOU)" , or rather, a partnership of convenience.
There are no more passive house-wives and no more "Man of the House" concept.
Every work is looked at as a 50-50 partnership- more of a business arrangement. ( I drop the kid, you pick him up....I do the cooking, you do the vessels..kinda stuff ).
Most youngsters get into marraige just to please their parents, if given a choice they would love to stay single and have fun..atleast probably until mid 30's.This is applicable to both men and women.
What seems fun and rosy at first , actually becomes more of a commitment, duty, liability, etc after the initial months.
With more and more couples employed and being away from families for long hours - loyalty has become a real questionnable factor . Today every house has a skeleton to hide in their closet
Spouses who are not prepared for this, better start accepting the fact. It is true that there would always be exceptions to anything, we would be lucky to fall under that category.
Kids are no more the restricting factors for a divorce. Kids, or, no kids, couples do not hesitate to get separated. This, according to most members , is because of women empowerment .
Women are independent, and are no more dependent on their men for their support. The tolerance level, in most cases, goes down with their confidence level going up.
Today, the reasons for separation , is so fickle when compared to the reasons, a few decades earlier.Earlier we would have heard divorce cases due to dowry, abuse etc. Today the reasons are as fickle as the husband snoring or woman not cooking at home.
In this fast age, with both partners working, life has become one complicated mathematics, with most of the time spent in budgeting, planning, applying for loans, purchasing of assets etc. It goes to the extent of planning for a kid, saving for the unborn kid etc.What seemed to be earlier a natural phenomenon, has become so much of a manipulated and timed process
Earlier, though joint families were an inconvenience for the elders at home, it was definitely a boon for the kids. It imbibed so much values in kids and the time they spend with their cousins, gave them a sense of belongingness with their extended family as well.
Today, with nuclear families, children are forced to spend most of their time in front of the TV or computer.Today with working mothers, leaving their new born babies with a baby sitter, a maid, or a creche, the child gets exposed to " out-sourced love " right from that tender age...the question is - Where are we willing to make a compromise - on the cash flow or our time for our children ?
Most people talk more when they are out with their friends and at office , when compared to what they speak with their spouses.
But practically speaking what i feel is that: -
Parents should start focussing more on providing education to their children rather than saving for their marraiges ( applicable more for daughters ).
Partners need to be prepared for the worst case scenario, if both are working.
The best way to be out of all this is to-
Stay single, have fun, dont get married, make enough money , travel across the world, retire, choose an old age home or Ashram , then die with a rama - naama in your lips ...
2006-08-24 00:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, the fast world we live in makes it difficult for us to tolerate and accept others. To afford all these 'fast' stuff we work harder, we have more stress, more debts and we end up spending less and less quality time with our families.
2006-08-24 00:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no we just have a bunch of stupid ppl in the world that don't want their marriage to work for one reason or another
2006-08-23 23:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋