I got a very huge expat job offer, but the problem is my family will not come with me due to personal reasons although they are allowed to. The pay is very irresistable and i can return home - retire and buy a golf course after few years of working in the middle east. The annual pay from my present job will just be two months equivalent to the job offer.
We have a very close family ties - we dine together, go to church regularly, malling - shopping and watching movies, the things that i will surely miss. My only reason of moving out and working to another country is for financial security of my family. This will be the first time of being away from them.
Will appreciate if someone out there can give his/her opinion with the same situation as i am to overcome homesickness so that i can still perform the assigned job at par and stay focus.
2006-08-23 23:14:20 · 5 answers · asked by a2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its sad to admit but being away from our family is the best way to give them better life,im also away from my husband and going to 2 yir old son for 8 months now.But i have no choice i rather sacrifice myself for their future,yeah its true that the salary offer hir in m.E. is tempting. I think your family will understand ur decision anyway its for their future,for the future of your family,just don't forget to have constant communication and everything will just turn out fine...Just remember in building a family as the mother or father u suld olweyz luk for the future of your children, n opportunity knock once....I can say that u hv bin blesses that you have bin given the opportunity for that job.This is just a test on ur family, a tough decision to make,ur wife just have to give his full trust n respect to you and so do you for ur wife...I will be hypocrite if i will say i don't missed them specially my son hus growing up without me on her side but i don't have choice being away from him will be the only way i know so dat i can give him a better future,anyway i will not be here for my entire life,i will just finish my contract den we will be together.Its just need a little sacrifice....
2006-08-24 00:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can only tell you that I once had a very good paying job with great retirement and benefits. If I had stayed I would be retiring at the end of this year and would probably have been comfortable for life. I am 51 years old.The problem was the job required long hours and alot of time away from home. I left the job after 10 years as I wanted to spend more time with my daughter. For me it was the best decision of my life. Our standard of living is alot lower, I will work now till I am in my 60's, but my daughter who is now about to turn 14, is my best friend. She plays competitive softball and I travel all over the Midwest to watch her and Ihave only missed 3 games in 4 years. At my last job I would have missed 3 out of 4. We go fishing together
If that job had only required 2 years I might have done that, but I would never trade the time with my daughter for money. In the long run my family is more important, and I wouldn't do it now that my daughter is in her early teens. I feel that being with her is the most important job I have. Just my personal thought
2006-08-23 23:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by mark g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have already commited to take up that ME offer, then proceed as planned but take your wife and children along with you. Since you are a close knit family it is important that you stay together. Convince your wife to go with you. Tell her that you need her to be with you. Ask for support from her parents and siblings. Find out if her reasons for not being able to join you is real. If it is real, give her some time to think it over and don't push her too hard to make up her mind. If she is stubborn and is definite about her decision not to follow you, then make her understand your disappointment. It is for a brighter future for you and your family that you have to live away from your home and loved ones. And that will give you the relief and satisfaction.
(Btw, accepting a contract to work in the ME has many risks. I hope you have been careful and considered the offer based on all factors including your personal safety).
2006-08-23 23:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your wife feel about this "separation"? Sometimes the short-term sacrifice is worth it for the long term goal. It sounds like a great opportunity. However, you and your wife must assure each other that you can stay strong thru out the time apart. Is it possible to visit? I'm sure you can stay in touch online and on phone too. The M.E. is NOT the safest place to be right now...weigh all of the pros and cons before making a decision...however share the deciding options with your wife. I wish you all the best
2006-08-23 23:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's nice that you will be making so much money over there since most of us that have been there got only peanuts for doing the dirty work, but as far as going remember this one of the reasons you will be getting paid all that money is the danger factor....seen the news lately.....also you could aways use the IM set up to stay in contact but as far as homesick your just screwed.
2006-08-23 23:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by wicked jester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋