the last email she said she love him; he needs to decide; & she will stop at nothing to get what she wants..him. then called me and said, there is something I need to know. (blackmaling my husband) When her husband heard about the affair, he threatened to kill my husband & our kids; including me; so I told him nothing, he believes her; but told me play the game; she wanted me to tell him the truth so that he'd leave her for cheating & mine leave me for putting us in danger; that leaves the doors open for her to make the move; I am currently in couseling w/my husband and pray every night; she feels as if she did nothing wrong; she told everyone in my family I am crazy & made this up; I can't find it in my heart to forgive her, I cut myself off w/my fam? I thought we were best friends; our kids play together & hubby's hang out; my last conv. w/her I really cussed her out! now I stay in church to keep sane, am I wrong to forgive him and not her?
2006-08-23 21:05:48 · 7 answers · asked by sassy lady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's difficult to unravel your story but proper forgiveness is only really due when there is repentance. If she denies the story on the one hand and admits it another time without thinking there is anything wrong, then she is certainly NOT repentant!
Inter-family problems like this are always worse because it splits the whole family. I think you need to say 'what happened, happened' (which doesn't make it right, of course!) and to try and mend relations with your family. You would be quite right to refuse to associate with your cousin, I think. Whether you can forgive her of not is up to you but you shouldn't harbour hate in your heart. In a case like this, where I am unable to decide what to do, I give the whole problem to God and find that he is always able to show me a solution.
2006-08-23 21:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a christian, remember to forgive is divine. You dont have to renew the relationship, just forgive and let go, its not up to you to judge and condemn her. Continue the counselling and praying with your husband, you will be the sure winner in the end
2006-08-24 04:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ravishing Rue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being betrayed by family is a hard thing to endure.... but hate is the worst burden to carry...
Keep praying... it will get better in time...
Best Wishes...
T.
2006-08-24 04:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by Theophania 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Minimize the damage....practice damage control in this situation....keep the problem in focus and do loose your family over this incident.
2006-08-24 04:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by marnefirstinfantry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really because she still has not giving you a way to forgive her if she dinies it or thinks it's ok! Where he has asked for forgiveness it makes it easyier
2006-08-24 09:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by lori b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong wrong wrong! How could you forgave one, and not the other! Unethical! O mama!
2006-08-24 04:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say murder them both in an act of passion...or pack up and leave..
2006-08-24 04:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Gunpowder Monk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋