The last 3 years I've worked about 10 months..... My wife has been working constantly for that time picking up my slack while bills pile up. I felt really bad when she brought this up to me, and I realized I had to start working again. I started looking for work when she told me "I think we should think about seperating" but this time I REALLY wanted to work....We decided I should take the kids and go to my moms for a week to decide what we want out of life. when I got back a had an awesome job within a week and she was so happy.... the problem is I lost it a week later and that brought back all her feelings despite me getting another great job within another week of searching (took me months when didn't want to work). So 3 days ago (the day before I got the other job) I hear those words again "we should think about seperating" the next day when I get the job she tells me she can tell I've changed, and wants me to stay. The next night she says her mind is going back and forth. HELP!
2006-08-23 21:04:22 · 13 answers · asked by mikesmailforjobs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can show her that you care by sticking to a job. she is exhausted and that is why her mind is going back and forth. she loves you way too much to have stuck for 3 years in such a situation.
discuss with her why is she changing her mind, and why does she want the separation and make sure you help her in any way you can. its not a problem of who is the breadwinner here, its a problem of have to do everything on her own.
2006-08-23 21:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is tired of being the breadwinner. If she has been working to support the family and be a mother she is likely exhausted. When you get a job she sees the end of the exhaustion and then when you lose it again she just sees the pain return. The only way this is going to work is if you actually stick at a job and give her a break. If you lose another job you will lose your wife.
2006-08-23 21:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by boo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your wife seems to think that life would be easier for her without you in it..You say that you really wanted this job but lost it with in a week of getting it..Your wife is tired of keeping you and doing without other things that she would have if you were working...(eating out more better car or luxury items or nicer things for the kids). Sounds to me you need to shape up or ship out and you don't like the idea of shipping out because of if you do then you don't have much of anything..Be a man take care of your wife! Get a job any job!
2006-08-23 22:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should dump you, your a loser, you have kids and only have had a job for 10 months out of the last 3 years. You are lazy and only are working cause your gravey train ( your wife) is gonna leave you sorry azz.
2006-08-23 21:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks life we have a case of broken dreams and unmet expectations. If you want to keep you realtionship this have to be met or if they can't then an agreement on what the way forward will be! Talk to you wife AFTER you have taken up your responsibilities!
2006-08-23 23:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by insane2mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with her saying that unfortunately it's already in her mind. I would try to talk to her though and see how things can work. Communication is the key. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-23 21:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can start by showing her that you can hold a good job down in that way she's not guessing all the time.
2006-08-23 21:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start working for the sake of marriage and the kids
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2006-08-23 21:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-23 21:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋