How jealous or trusting should you be if you suspect your spouse is cheating?

Answer 1

I hate hearing about stuff like this happening. It's sad.

I'd say you should trust your instincts on this one, sweety. The fact that he 'blew up' makes him come across as defensive and guilty. Especially, when he also agreed to stop talking to her afterward.

You said he has a history of wandering. Why do you put up with it? Why have you stayed with him? And don't give us the old 'but I love him' excuse. Ask yourself this: if he really loves you why would he need or want other women?

If you really want to save your marriage, how about trying marriage counseling? In the meantime, I'd start preparing to make myself self-efficient and independent. Go to school, get a good job or a better one maybe. Learn how to take care of yourself, because if he refuses to go to counseling and continues wandering you should be prepared to get out of such an unhealthy relationship.

Not all men cheat. There is a man out there somewhere who will love you, respect you, and treat you right - the way you deserve to be treated.

You know, some men will cheat and continue to do so as long as they can get away with it. If he thinks you won't leave, that you will forgive him and take him back time and time again, he may never change.

But, at least, try counseling first. It's saved the marriages of at least one couple I know personally... and they are now happier than they had ever been.
Good Luck.

Answer 2

If you think he is cheating, that can drive you nuts,
even worse,

First and most important, you can not show anger or jealousy until you know for sure,,

i hate to say be sneaky, and do not let him know you suspect anything, untill you know for sure,,

then confront, him, as you pack up and leave,,
i hope you are wrong, and it is not true,

OR
just sit him down and look him in the eyes, and ask him, and tell him your suspicians..

good luck,
praying always helps too

Answer 3

I am honest with my feelings inside and outside.

Maybe nobody would do like me, but I tell my boyfriend aboust somthing that i am not comfortable or I am unhappy, or even jelous!

He wanted me of course to be kind and happy all the time, but I can ttell him lie when I am jelous or can t trust him.

Honesty makes you feel better than talking behind of my boyfriend with the society as some girls do but instead I admire him when I am witha friend or family but I tell him all his negative points only to himself.

Answer 4

You speak of these emotions like a thermostat on your A.C. If you do indeed have such control over your emotions I'd keep things nice and warm until you discover the truth, in which case you might want to give him the cold shoulder!

Answer 5

you shouldn't be jealous you should trust your spouse to tell you if he/she is cheating on and if not and know about it admit it that you know that she/he is cheating on you them work things out but dont break up if you a truelly in love with that person.

Answer 6

Never go off of a suspicion because if it is wrong then your trust was just thrown out the door with him and not the other way around.

Answer 7

I would be in a mad angry RAGE! I don't play that cheating mess! I'd for sure find out before I confronted him though that it was true.

Answer 8

If you suspect, be on guard. I wouldn't be controlling... but I'd be keeping up survelance... keeping track mentally of all the times my spiuse is gone.

Answer 9

not trusting at all, but i'm the type to confront u head on!

Answer 10

You should know before you accuse but you're probably right. i'd prepare to dump the jerk.