2006-08-23 20:41:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you need to focus on is not what he did to you in the past but what he's doing for you right now. If you dwell on something, even if it's not every day, it will kill the relationship in the long run.
One way to look at it is, If you start to think about it, think of the things he's done or is doing that have made you feel those butterflies inside. That might make it easier for you to forget about it and you won't have time to get upset or feel hurt.
2006-08-23 21:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ðøwñ tø Ëã®th 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on whether that person will stop cheating or not. Many people think that running away is the answer, so they divorce right away, and later find out that the grass is not always greener on the other side....especially if you have kids because now your son or daughter will have 4 parents after you guys get remarried. It's a big hassle.
However, staying is not the answer, UNLESS your cheating spouse stops. If you are not married, I would leave.
2006-08-24 03:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by p_boxter03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say without more information. Personally I would go. Once bitten, twice shy. If he is capable of cheating once, then he is capable of cheating a second time. If I am to be with someone I want to know I can trust them and rely on them to be faithful to me otherwise what do you have left.
Take all into account all considerations, but at the end of the day, can you truley trust him again and be happy with this person without doubting them when they are late, or when you don't know where they are. Do what makes you happy and feel emotionally safe.
2006-08-24 03:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would definately go. if you could look at the person the same again or totally trust them then maybe stay but i don't believe things ever get back to the way they were pre cheating.
2006-08-24 03:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love the guy, it may be hard for you to let go. Andif your partner does everything within and beyond his might just to prove to you that it's you that he really loves, saving the relationship could be an answer.
But if you still see red signs every now and then, and you still suspects something's going on, trust your instincts girl...maybe it's time to quit.
2006-08-24 03:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with, the reason the Bible does not encourage premarital engagement is to minimise dilemmas like this. if you are married try and work it out and stay. if not move on but to a life long faithful relationship underscored by marriage!
2006-08-24 03:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by insane2mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends ... Perhaps you might want to stay together but not be monogamous ... instead have an open relationship ... if not ... it will most likely happen again, he'll bang another chick ,,, I mean what's changed? You think he has? Doubtful. So decide that you both have multiple lovers or get out.
2006-08-24 04:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends. If the person is repentant and want to be forgiven and is up front and "stand up"...maybe you can give him another chance. On the other hand if he has a pattern of disrespect and does not show sincerity and sensitivity to your feelings, then do not allow him another chance to denigrate your love.
Remember..."To thine own self be true".
2006-08-24 03:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got to go..no two ways about it. find a ny amount of reasons to stay but its already been proved that one's partners doesn't respect you enough to not cheat. and respect is big in love.
2006-08-24 03:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by livs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually ex cheated on me--i left--just spent probably the lonliest 8 years of my life but you know what--i wouldnt change a thing
2006-08-24 03:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋