Okay, I know it's completely wrong to think about this. But I have a crush on a girl I work with. I'm married and she knows I am. But I want to tell her that I think she's very pretty and maybe we should go out. I know it's totally wrong to do that, but I can't help it. I can't get her out of my head. How do I tell her when she knows I'm married? And how can I convince her to do it?
2006-08-23 20:24:16 · 17 answers · asked by tekkodbz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How? Don't convince her. It's a stupid feeling that will pass. You'll defenitiely regret it later, if you do.
2006-08-23 20:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel, if you get to know that your wife has a crush on someone?
May be, you won't feel that bad, but it doesn't mean that your wife will have the same very perception. You have married someone, you owe some responsibilities towards her.
Today, if you have a crush on someother woman then maybe tomorrow you will start liking someone other.
You are a characterless person. You still have ball in your court. Don't do any bad KARMA which will come back to you in the future.
2006-08-23 20:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for everyone to have crushes during our whole life even if we're already in a relationship or married. We cannot control the emotional and physical attraction that we can have toward other people than our spouse. The attraction itself is not considered as cheating cuz it's out of our control. If you do nothing and do not try to get closer to your co-worker, the crush you have on her may end up disapearing if you truely love your spouse. And you won't have cheated on her. But if you take the decision to try to get closer to your co-worker (ask her out, etc) well it's already considered as cheating your wife cuz you have control on this decision. But if you really think that your co-worker is worth it, well think about leaving your wife first!!
Most of the time those kind of crushes are not worth spoiling the relationship we're already in. Remember why you fell in love with your wife and try to imagine her crying after she learnt that you are interested in another women. Then maybe you'll feel guilty and you'll try to focus more on the relationship you're already in because you'll realize how much your wife is important to you (supposing that you still love her of course cuz if you don't love her anymore then why don't you leave her?).
2006-08-23 20:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Isabelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out any information regarding your wife. Are you getting along? Is your sex life okay? Are you fighting with her? Are you still in love with her?
If you desire to go after another girl, it is probably because you are looking to her to give you something you wouldn't already get at home. But let me be clear: it's not fair to your wife to sleep with another girl behind her back and then pretend that everything at home is okay. If you want out of your marriage, then do it. If you want permission to go outside of your marriage for sex, then ask your wife if it's okay (for all you know, she might want the same thing). Just don't think you can have your cake and eat it too.
2006-08-23 20:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by athedge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not trying to be mean, but i hear guys ask why do girls say we are pigs, why do girls think every man cheats, things like that, and you are one of the guys that make girls think that. when you got married, you made a commitment, and if you couldnt commit to it, you were not ready for marrage. if you really love your wife, you will think about how much it would hurt her if she knew about this. you need to be a good husband to her and think about what you are wanting to do. it is wrong to cheat and you know it, so why would you do it anyway? you need to accept the fact that sometimes we cant have what we want and need to put the people we loves needs before our own. cheating could end your marrage, is that what you want?
2006-08-23 20:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop and rethink...it's perfectly ok to have a crush, but acting on it is another story....You had better be sure to deal with the consequences if you make the wrong one. Is it worth it? Only you know the answer that is right for you.
2006-08-23 20:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every man cheats. Or thats what I heard in that 1 movie, It was called... I forgot. But that story was really messed up and the guy lost all his money and went to jail. and ended up killing this other guy because it was a set up. ah, I remember now, It was called De-railed. good movie, watch it before you go after her.
2006-08-23 20:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a bad idea, even entertaining the idea is bad. i think that you should not go out with her cos you're already married. just think of how your wife would feel about this whole thingy and then try to see how you would feel if you are on your wife's shoes!!! bad bad bad idea. as in.
2006-08-23 20:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by cute_filipina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the whole thing. Imagine the consequences when your wife finds out.
2006-08-23 20:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by lene123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to jeopardize your relationship with your wife, kids, and reputation over a piece of azz???
think about if your wife found out. what if your kids found out, what if your family found out.
it's not worth it. just stay friend with that hottie...don't have an affair, it's pretty low.
2006-08-23 20:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋