2006-08-23 20:14:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk about it before you make such a decision. When he is at his best behaviour, seek for an explanation. Find out what drives him up the wall to treat you like that. Be open and tell him that you love him and you desire to be happy. If he says its this and that, explain your part and then come to a compromise.
Its good that you still love your hubby, so help bring out the best in him. If this fails, try counselling, even if it means going alone.
I have learnt over the years that success in marriage depends on the choices we make. If you love your hubby, then choose to make him happy, choose to forgive, to stop criticism, to admire his best qualities and ignore his worst - no one is perfect. Choose to make your marriage work. In doing so, instead of looking at the door with a view to leaving, open the door with a view to renewing your love. This is in my view what makes marriage work.
2006-08-23 20:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by tomnjerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there ,ive been in the same place as you are ,and i know what i went through and my husband treated me like crap in fact the crap got treated BETTER im sure you know what i mean ,i stayed in that relationship for 21 years and it never got better it slowly got worse and i thought i couldmake things better but all he had was someone to run round after his backside doing everything that he wouldnt do that meant i did everything !!and i was still in love with him thats why i stayed until the way i was being treated by him lead to me getting depressed and i wouldnt be suprized if thats what you are ,the day i realised that i couldnt do what he wanted anymore was the start of my life and leaving him wasnt easy ,but i did do it and my life now is so happy i cn do what i want when i want no one to say no to me and tell me to do this or that ,its all stopped ,im starting to like me again ,as i dont know if youre husband does this one .....IM DOING YOU A FAVOUR NO ONE ELSE WOULD WANT YOU ?? !! crap crap crap ,he just doesnt want you to find anyone else ,pleaseget some advise for a centre about where you can start youre new life and get youre self ready for a move that will change youre life for ever and you will start to live youre life ......which is what you have the right to do !!i wish you all the luck in the world and i really hope you find hapiness ....i found it but not with my husband ,with a\new partner and im sure you will when youre ready to move on with YOURE NEW LIFE !! take care xx
2006-08-23 20:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you like crap why do you love him. Or are you just used to that treatment. Love should be concern for the others' welfare, both mentally and physically. If you don't have that with your husband, it's time to leave and find someone who will REALLY love you.
2006-08-23 20:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered this question already yourself. No one deserves to be treated like crap. Realizing that is the first step in leaving him. By staying with him you are selling yourself short on what should matter most to you, Happiness. Good Luck!
2006-08-23 20:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being treated like crap then it is clear that he does not love you. You do not treat someone like that when you are in love. So, now that we have established that your love is not being returned in kind you should get out of that relationship and not look back. You cannot make someone love you. Good luck.
2006-08-23 20:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband alone it is not enough
It has to be reciprocal
Speak to him and tell him that u do not like the way he is treating you and tell him not to have double standards and u married him for the reason that he was nice to u etc
Then if he does not stop his ways then u tellhim that u would leave him
DOn't be afraid of finace etc - he has to provide u and it is more his loss than for u
2006-08-23 20:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you do not love him.you say you love him and to continue you want his love.like you care him for something then he should also care you for something ,it is not love but it is compromise.secondly it is heighly impossible that you love someone so much ,and he does not love you.love has got a lot of power which can change anything but you could not change him it means you also have some problems. try to find out and analyse . because my dear friend you can not get the time of that portion of life which you have been passed with him.secondly you should be happy that you are doing your job .loving someone is the love to God.love is selfless.you should not expect anything in average of love.
2006-08-23 20:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by KrishanRam(Jitendra k) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to him about it ,you know men they can go along thinking everything is ok ,make some quiet time ,tell him how you feel (as long as this isn't physical abuse).tell him you love him but that your love is being worn away with his treatment of you see what he says, what have you got to lose .if its a physical abuse thing ,just leave !!!
2006-08-23 20:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him, you won't leave him
if he treats you like crap it's either because he doesn't love you, or he doesn't realise he's doing it
talk to him, and if he still treats you badly, kick him in the goolies and leave hiom
2006-08-24 01:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was the same way she stayed with my dad for 20 years then she just got tird of his **** and told him I love you to death but we cant be together anymore you are Abusive
2006-08-23 20:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by HunnyBunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋