how do you control your anger?

Question

do you follow scientific methods suggested by psychologists or control your anger in your own way? do you think it is better to express or suppress the anger?

Answer 1

Ritalin plus zyban. Also behaviour modification methods, like trying to consciously relax and let things slide off.
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Answer 2

what is there a question of expressing or suppress ones anger when one doesn't have one. Don't express it or suppress it extinguish it. Acceptance is the healthy remedy from emotions like anger. when some one says something ask Ur self - "was that true about my self". If is then try improving Ur self in that or howsoever U wise. If it is false then just consider it a word by a person with low knowledge. Patience is the key to all such problems. try breathing some fresh air and spending so time alone with Ur self, it will help U understand Ur self better because this problem can be solved by only U as it is U who is going to care that anger if U don't act accordingly. Try freeing Ur self from troubles and bondages to a maximum extent. As with these bondages comes impatience from which comes ANGER.

"Respect is (brings) acceptance, acceptance is (brings) tolerance, tolerance is (brings) patience and patience is to keep ones mind free and unruffled"

Hope this helps,

-Vinod.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if this is suggested by psychologists, but from my point of view, one has two choices:
first, you can allow anger to take over and control you.
second, you can control the anger and stay in charge.

what I'm trying to say: you need to create an awareness of when you are getting angry and you have to acknowledge that. say "this is anger I'm feeling - and I'm entiteled / I'm not entiteled to feel this anger, because...". This will help you (at least, me) to accept anger and control it in an proactive way. breathing deeply a couple of times can help in "explosive situations", too :)

whether to suppress or express, this depends. There are times for both. expressing the anger might be right, if the time is right and is generally considered a useful thing. for me personally, I try to suppress anger typically, and go over it as fast as possible. This way, I don't have my mind preoccupied by going over the same annoying things over and over. I think it's enough to face them once, get over them and be done with them. Doesn't work all the time, though :)

One more thing: suppressing means not ignoring. If you simply ignore your anger, it will stay inside you and accumulate until it explodes by the tiniest drop which is too much then. What I'm talking about is accepting/working up/understanding the anger and be done with it. Be done with it - don't mention it again. Don't talk to my girl/boyfriends about it, not my mama, it is simply... done.

Answer 4

I think it's not a good idea to suppress anger, but it's not wise to explode either. one of the best ways of controlling ur anger is to walk away for awhile from what causing u to b angry. and also excersicing regularly can help u have a more stable emotion. if u like art, try to make something, or sing or whatever, find ways to put the energy of anger somewhere else

Answer 5

First of all, I acknowledge that my anger exists and is legitimate for the most part.
Second, I identify whom I am angry with, what person or group, etc
Third, I express it when my emotional or physical or psychic space is being imposed upon, like when I told a teenager talking very loudly in the back of the bus to KEEP IT DOWN, because he was being obnoxious to the others on the bus.

Answer 6

It is not easy. I used to have problems doing so. I would always hate myself after wards for the way I acted and the things that I said. I would give it a lot of thought and I came up with this quote borne out of the problem. So whenever a potential situation would come up I would automatically realize that the anger is developing and calm down with he thoughts of my quote and follow it. Here's the quote: "When things are not going your way, use it as a chance to show how much class you have".

Ironically this works for me.

Answer 7

I have a large bag hanged in my balcony having filled with cotton wool. I hit it in my boxing mood and also some times (if I am too much crazy) I hit that with my head. This helps me to cool down at my home environment.

Incase of work place, I go to the coffee room and take an Asprin tablet and sit quiet in staright posture for about 5 - 7 minutes and and cool down.

In both the circumstances I will not talk anything and keep quiet, whatever they say to me. I know, that I can't touch a person, if I do they will gett hurt eaily due to my strong physical features!!!!

Answer 8

Expressing your anger is good for your body because your getting it out of your system, but suppressing it is bad because your keeping it all inside you. I suppress most of my anger. If you are really angry, then get a cup of cold water and spash it on your face and walk away. Your body goes in shock because of the cold and it will calm you down.

Answer 9

If you're a hot tempered person, suppressing anger will be hard. But if you're a cool tempered person, it will be easier. Focus on other things such as listen to music and have a quiet time to contemplate the cause of your anger.

Answer 10

I have emotional asthma and when I was a child if I got very angry I would get an asthma attack and would not be able to breathe.

I had quite a temper and had to learn to tone down a bit (a lot).

Don't suppress your anger - find a way to work through it.

Answer 11

I think before I act, and I usually express my anger, but it is always after I have cooled down a bit and thought it over. I may still be angry when I express myself, but at least the words that come out have been thought over.