right now it is so imp. for my son to study ( he is 8 yr old) , but he is busy playing . What to do?

Question

it becomes very difficult at times to make him understand the importance of studies. I have to also handle my 2 yr old daughter with her.

Answer 1

Let him play for a specific time period. THEN hit the books to study.

Answer 2

Actually I was just studying this topic earlier today.

Many parents feel that by taking away things they can force the student or child into doing the work. The difficulty is that if he's not self-motivated it won't last long and you'll end up with a mad child who'll never learn to study by himself. It's all about motivation. Go to your local library and pick up books on motivation in children. There are great books out there. Just taking things away or scolding won't work. You have to realize that his motivation is falling out sometime after school starts. Many children progress very well in the beginning but stop part way in. This could be a number of reasons and depends on your situation.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

Set a routine. Depending on what time he gets home...if he gets home right after school a good routine would be probably a light snack and 30-45 minutes of play time then do homework. At 8 his homework shouldnt be too extensive...he will know how to manipulate you by pretending its too hard or taking too long. Your are in charge so set the boundries. Take a look at what he has to accomplish...your are aware of his capabilities so you should be able to judge when he is just making excuses in the area of difficulty. He may be a pain about it at first but if you stick to it and make him do it he will realize the faster he gets it done, the quicker he gets back to playing. Remember your the boss not him so if he is not doing his work you need to tighten the reins until he learns. Children learn quickly how to wear down their parents and get them to give in, so you need to be the type that sticks wit it and wear him down first.

Answer 4

When i was younger i was a very energetic child who always wanted play play but never study. Finally my mom one day sat me down and tried to tell me the seriousness of studying and how it would help me later. I know you are thinking is this lady crazy? telling me to talk about "seriousness" to an 8 year old? But truly it works. If you set up a schedule like: Study for 1 hr. with mom or whoever and then play, while your 2 year old is sleeping, or study and then play and before bed and in the car go over a study guide made up in your head while driving to school or wherever. I hope this helps!

Answer 5

Well you are the boss so let him know that he cannot play until he is done studying and if he refuses, put him in a corner for 20 minutes until he cooperates - that is what supernanny does. Take the toys away. Keep them somewhere that he can't get them unless you give them to him - like on top of a closet shelf for example. :o) That sounded sooo mean - I didn't mean it like that - I have included links below that explain all the supernanny steps - those shows are good - she gets the kids to be little angels by the time she leaves so maybe the links to her show and the ten rules will help you ~ I hope :o) You must be frustrated and tired and need time to yourself to and this is possible - you just need to reorganize some things and change old behaviors - be patient and remember to take some time every day for you!

He is obviously in the habit - he is running you and you have to change that. Have you tried to sit with him? You also need to praise him when he does study first - positive reinforcement but you also need negative reinforcement - so if he does not do what you say - you have to take something away from him - this is the only thing kids understand sometimes.

Tell him if he does his work, he can have something special - but don't do this all of the time - it should be done only every now and then so he will do his work all of the time but never know when he will get something special so he will do it to make sure he gets it.

You have to tell him to stop, take away his toys, sit with him. Make a schedule - tell him like 3-5 is study time but he can take 2 breaks or something for a snack, a little TV, etc and then after dinner he can play - you have to get everyone on a schedule that works for you. See if you can help him with his work when the little on is napping. You have to make a schedule that will work with your house and then every night leave that hour or so that you need for yourself so much.This is obviously something he has gotten away with for a long time so it won't change overnight but write up a schedule and post it on the fridge for him to see. And start to work on it slowly. Be nice, praise him, reinforce sometimes with nice things or deserts or something- but overall you are the mom and he is the kid so take control - wherever he is that he can play, move those things so he can't just run away and play - then when he gets on a schedule you can put them back - when he knows "when" he can play with them and after he does his work. Make a specific station for him to do his homework at so he knows when he is there, that is all that he can do.

There is tons of help on this site - I know my random comment about putting him in the corner must have been weird but I did see that on every supernanny show - it just didn't sound so cruel when she did it :o) haha
http://abc.go.com/primetime/supernanny/index.html
http://www.channel4.com/health/microsites/S/supernanny/
http://abc.go.com/primetime/supernanny/toptenrules.html *******
The last link is the top 10 rules to use with kids - check it out!!

Supernanny's Top Ten Rules

If I could sum up my approach to caring for children, these would be my top ten rules. They're based on observation, not on theory. They apply to most situations you're going to face, and you'll find them summarized at the end of each chapter in the section on troubleshooting, where I'll be more specific about how they apply in different cases.
Praise and Rewards
Consistency
Routine
Boundaries
Discipline
Warnings
Explanations
Restraint
Responsibility
Relaxation

Answer 6

Pick a time of day for him to do his homework and stick to it. Keep the same time, everyday.
Keep in mind, he's only 8 so any longer than 45 minutes is too long.

Answer 7

Sometimes, it's like that with small children. All you have to do is be patient and to become one of them. don't tension your kids with too much tension in studies. teach them slowly and soon they will learn. make them revise their studies for about an hour and give them a break and continue again. your son is just 8. he is so young. try to follow his ways and find out in what subject he is interested in. try slowly and don't pressure yourself too much.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

help him to study by playing. Help him to play with numbers. It makes him to interest in study.

Answer 9

give him the best limited time to play where hecan enjoy with his friends - or allow his friends to come home and play with him so he doesn't get tired of playing and can study even

Answer 10

dont let him have the fun stuff until he is done with his studies, thats ur job mom, we work then play. this isnt the time to be his friend