We are marraied and i love him blindly but sometime i find that man totally unknown , means there are lots of thing which i found that he is hiding something from me,He is less bother to keep transparency and found call at his cell from lady's voice,asking he told some vague answers pls help me out.
2006-08-23 19:06:59 · 22 answers · asked by sathi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
trust your instinct, if thats how you feel, it is probably true, just keep your eyes open,and tell him to his face, if you find him cheating, will be bye bye.
2006-08-23 19:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish you would have wrote Little more clearer. however, either you trust each other or you dint!! if the trust is gone you have no relationship. are you sure the cell # is a girlfriend? if your real concerned hire a private detective to follow him. if hes cheating then split up. if hes not then forgive yourself and be happy. thats the best advice i can offer you i hope this is most help full to you i wish you the best and hope he is being faith full!! but in case he isn't, never settle for less. you deserve so much more if he is not doing you right. i read some of the other comments and why should you have to use protection with your own man on a regular bases? however, you may want to ob stain for a short while, while you have him watched. it only takes one time to contract a disease that can take your life. have you sat down and had a heart to heart talk? still,id check out the matter.thank you,Kat
2006-08-23 19:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by shiznick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start, and assuming you're not the overly jealous type, if you suddenly suspect he's cheating based on behavioral changes, he probably is. In your case, as in mine (yup, been there . . .done that), the cell phone may be the key! A few things to ask yourself . . . is he suddenly turning his cell phone off when he's home, but didn't before? Is he always ending a call just as you're walking into the room? A friend advised I log on to his cell phone account and sit back, and I suggest you do the same. If you start seeing calls to and from the same number 20 (or whatever number) times a day . . . beware.
That was the case in my situation. I monitored the calls for weeks, and finally called the number, identified myself and told her that he had confessed everything (he hadn't, of course). I was shocked when she started to cry and told me more than I wanted to hear. I then confronted him, and at first he denied it, telling me I was paranoid. When I told him I spoke with her and she had admitted everything, he told me she was crazy. I showed him a copy of his cell phone bill . . . hard to dispute!
I threw everything including him out of the front door. Even though I loved him, it was the best thing I could have done. I later found out that she was just one of many.
Your man may not be doing anything, which I hope is the case. But you need to look at whatever facts you already have and start thinking with your head, not your heart. Get to the bottom of your suspicians so that you can move on from this point one way or another. Ignorance is not bliss . . . been there!
2006-08-23 20:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he isn't around check the phone and see if you see her number and name on the list. Write it down and find her address. Go and park there for a while when is is suppose to be home but isnt' and see if his car if there. Or if you are real brave.......call the woman and ask who she is and then say.......why are you calling MY husband? She will either say she is his stock broker or gasp and say that he told her that he was single.
Maybe fallow him sometime. Check reciepts he has in his pockets and wallet to see if he booked a room fo9r two or something like that.
You could hire a Private Investagator.
Smell his clothing for perfume or the sent of sex.. or condoms
You do know you might be totally wrong and he is true blue to you forver.
If he travels for work. CAll his hotel before he gets that and say ou are secretary for mr.........and you were wondering if he has booked a single room or double room. If they say double room.......you say oh alright he is traveling with Misss......whats her name. ok thanks and hang up.
Don't lose too much sleep over this. He maybe just got a call from a lady at work and you don't have to worry about it.
Also check your credit card ist of purchaces that he makes.
I hope you are wrong kido
2006-08-23 19:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could secretly stalk him long enough to find out, or hire a detective, or check cellphone bill online. Now you can get phone text numbers too (atleast through verizon). As long as a phone number isn't a cell and sometimes private you can look up a number on GOOGLE and get a name and adress to it. You could randomly ask to see his cellphone and look at the numbers. You could up front just ask him and make him believe its okay to be honest about it (well he should be that way anyways). Make sure you have your resources ready in the mean time. Lawyers and those sorts of things.If you have children together don't forget them! Oh could be a lady that had the wrong number. Goodluck
2006-08-23 19:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to discover like Columbus discovered America? No way. If you suspect something is not right and have real proof then catch him point blank and show him the proof. Don't be unnecessarily suspicious and simply imagine that something is going on based on some rumours and some flimsy thing like a woman's voice in his mobile phone mail box.
2006-08-23 19:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband uses the computer to communicate with people or is an online junky, the chances are he is also using it to be unfaithful. Shop around for a good computer spyware that will track his every keystroke. A lot of people use them to monitor their kids, but could be put to use doing this as well. Good luck!
2006-08-27 17:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by northern_xpsr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing except some inter personal communication. Both of you sit together and open it out. Whether it is for good or bad.
IF you postpone it or not talk about it, or contact some agency etc it will worsen only.
So, sooner both of you talk about it the better. It will also remove your worries once you have thrown it out.
2006-08-23 19:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by akilashiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same shoes, I still love my partner, so I SEE NO EVIL, HEAR NO EVIL. Marriages have ups and downs and trust is important.
If your husband sees you are much better than anyone else, he will stop the rubbish.
The other drastic move: PI, DIVORCE AND THEN ALIMONY.
The choice is yours
2006-08-23 19:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you havent mentioned in ur question that which state of india you belong to. your problem can be sorted out but u cant blame your husband in absence of a proof. moreover its easy to break and tough to sustain. am a lawyer from delhi and in case u want some personal advice, u may send me a mail or a message and ur problem can surely be tackled in a logical manner.
rajiv, advocate
2006-08-23 20:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by lawyer_rajiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, what will you do with this information? Are you going to leave him? Not if you really love him that much. So I suggest you leave it alone, it's better not to know. And the possibility is that he is not, but you will drive him away by accusing him.
2006-08-23 19:17:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋