I've been married for a few years now and our marriage is pretty good. At an event, which was held in another state, a few weeks ago I was having a great time being without my husband and going out with my friends. I was actually happy our schedules didn't allow us to be together because it let me catch up and just let loose. Af the event I drank a little too much and ended up kissing one of the men who also attended the event. It didn't go any further, but both of us were intoxicated - although we did sober up somewhat before it happend. The thing is I cannot stop thinking about this man, who I just met that night. We talked a few times on the phone since and his friends (and him) admit he has no luck with women. But since I returned home I think about him alot and know I would have kissed him even if I was sober - I was attracted to him a great deal. I'm just not sure what to do. He knows I'm married and we live far apart. I'm just curious what he thinks about me. Any suggestions?
2006-08-23 18:45:00 · 17 answers · asked by Elle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah I have a suggestion, tell me your husband's email address so I can tell him.
You want to have your cake and eat it too; you sicken me. I find you vile and repulsive and hope your husband leaves you penniless and homeless when he divorces you and takes everything. If you want to be single then go do it, but this notion that it's ok to screw around behind people's back is getting to an epidemic stage and it's trash like you that gives marriage a bad name.
I bet you're probably one of those hypocrites that are against gay marriage too, you probably have the nerve to say that it "violates the sanctity of marriage."
Wish I could be there to see it when karma kicks you in the butt!
You asked and I gave you my answer!
2006-08-23 19:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by GVD 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there done that.
I was in your husbands spot a few years ago. It started with my wife out for drinks with the girls. The music was hot and apparently so were the guys. A few drinks and an innocent peck on the cheek, and soon the phone number was in her purse. He was new, exciting and unattached. One call led to another, and next thing she knew, it was time for an "overnight business trip".
I found out, we separated for 2 months, and managed to patch things up.
But that's not the end. One year latter, new guy, new line, old routine, same results. A few months latter, one more time.
Now, I pay child support, live with my cat and she has no boyfriend.
A guy who goes after a married woman, and is not married himself has nothing to lose. If he gets caught, the most that will happen is a punch or two from a jealous husband. He will feed you any line he can think of if he thinks he can get in your pants. He will say he loves you. He will say he respects you. He will agree with you if you point out any of your mates faults, but will fail to mention his own.
You say your marriage is "pretty good", that's great. If you love your husband, and don't want to lose him, embrace that relationship. Forget about the other guy and what he thinks about you, IT JUST DOESN'T MATTER. What ever you decide, be good to yourself, and true to your values.
2006-08-23 19:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nemesis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As humans, we try to be faithful to our spouse. If you don't love your spouse, be honest with him and talk it out. Probably a divorce is in the future.
Maybe this was just a thing...a temporary lack of good judgement. Fix it, be faithful to your husband, you know, the vows and the wedding ring.
My wife doesn't do that garbage, and neither do I. It is ok to fantasize, but not act on the fantasies.
2006-08-23 18:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by powhound 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like what my friend in to.I don't want to say go for it because you are married.I gust want to say Ask yourself how do you relay want to be with.You must not be happy with your husband wright know for some reason.Talk with your husband ask what you can try and save this married thing.Then if he do not then go to your mate.
2006-08-23 18:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you both took those vows on your wedding day, and i am pretty sure there is something in there about being faithful to one another. to be quite honest i think you should tell your husband and if he is still willing to be with you that you should feel fortunate.
2006-08-23 18:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tabitha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do about that feeling...
the feeling to runaway from reality and be in the arms of another person . .
but this is merely a cycle...
A night of passion is not enough to justify being with another man !
2006-08-23 19:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by megadisc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its o-kay. We all go through this as married people. Stick with who you have and fantasize...I do it and so does my wife. We have been married for 14yrs. Remember...its not always greener on the other side....but it seems like it sometimes...
2006-08-23 18:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by donnie0123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITS OK TO LOOK ITS OK TO THINK BUT WHEN YOU TOUCH THATS A NONO YOU TOOK VOWS SWEETY YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT THAT AS 4 ME I THINK WHEN U GET MARRIED ALL THAT BEING W/ OTHERS IS OVER WHAT IF YOUR HUSBAND DID WHAT U DID WOULDNT U B HURT I KNOW I WOULD
2006-08-23 18:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your marriage vows meant nothing? That's too bad that you don't have enough respect for yourself or your husband to mean what you say.
I believe the descriptor term in this case changes from wife to whore.
2006-08-23 18:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by blamurfen 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well.. its natural for us human to get attracted to some guys/girls out there though you're married or not.. but just a lil' advice girl.. think before doin something.. or you might regret it in your future.. :)
2006-08-23 18:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by ShyGuRL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋