A stat says 29% woman are key bread earners in the family in 21 centry vs. 11% in 1960s. Is this cause more power struggles in modern marriage? (you know the guy's big ego thing)
2006-08-23 18:44:52 · 19 answers · asked by 1001Questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I make more than husband. It doesn't seem to be a problem. We get to do more and have more together. For a number of years I was a house wife and loves that but I decided I wanted a new car. I went to work. Wanted 15 20 hours a week just to pay the payment and now I am full time and I loooove my job and love the financial freedom that comes with both partners working. Good Q.
2006-08-31 18:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by STEPHEEDEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I have in the past. Actually my husband was injured when I was pregnant and could not work for a long time. So after our son was born he stayed home and took care of him. I worked full time in a 8/5 M/F job. We needed the money and the benefits. We are a team and if it came down to it again that is the way it should be. I personally can't understand how one spouse or half can be bothered by the other making more money. I think that is petty.
I mean we are working for the same goals and dreams so the more money that one of us makes the quicker we can reach our next step in completing our dreams.
2006-08-29 16:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by aleynam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was a major stumbling block in my marriage during the 80's. My ex-husband felt that the "man" should be the main breadwinner and became more and more insecure as time went on that he wasn't.
Even though it was necessary that I also work to preserve our lifestyle, we argued constantly about the fact that I made substantially more money than he. My feeling . . . if it's all going into the same pot, does it matter? His feeling . . . I should have quit my job and found one that paid less.
Of course, since this was his hang-up, he could have opted to quit his job and found a better paying one. Nope - not an option!! We have since divorced, but the real tragedy is the countless hours wasted arguing over something so trivial.
2006-08-23 19:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Its okay if I earn more, but I will always respect my husband, because man needs pride. It is their basic instinct that God gave. Woman have their own weakness also. I will respect my husband and give him all the support he needs.
2006-08-31 01:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 22:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey 1001,
I know this was for the ladies, but I couldn't resist.
I'm a man, my wife supports me totally and there's no problem. I supported her for 6 years and now that I'm not working she supports me. It's has nothing to do with ego. It's about the goal we set for ourselves by 2010. It doesn't matter who makes the money as long as by the end of the day "we" have profited.
Of course in my immature days I was one of those typical lug heads too. So your question should be rephrased to address "immature" men.
2006-08-23 18:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i generally bring home more than my partner. that has not been a problem with us.
i think that men get into the breadwinner things and dont see the forest for the trees.
i think that the ego thing is just insecurity when you break it down and talk about it if its a problem.
my partner and i have been together for 9 years and there were times that he made more than i did. the one thing we had to learn was who paid what and when. thats been the source of most of our money issues through the years.
2006-08-30 02:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I make more money than my husband. No. It does not cause problems in our marriage. I have a master's degree and he is working on his bachelors. Higher Education paid off. He is not intimidated by this. He is striving to finish his education and get higher paying jobs but there is no power struggle in our relationship.
2006-08-24 01:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My current girlfriend makes more than me and I could care less. Were not together for the money. We both know that in the end all the money we make together is going to benefit us together. I have big plans for my future career and she supports it. She has just as much confindence in me as I do in myself. Any man that has a problem with this needs to get off his *** and create some more income and quit making excuses.
2006-08-31 18:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend earns less than me but so far, we've not had issues about it. anyway, what's there to complain about? it means more expensive holidays and extra money if we need it.
a relationship is about sharing everything.
i always encourage and praise him when he makes any kind of advancement at work. i think its not important that the guy earns more. if his pay is sufficiant enough for the both of you, you won't even have to use your pay and he can still pay for everything which means more shopping for you, and more presents for him!
my boyfriend still pays for everything when we go out. i only need to take out my money when he's not with me or when i'm buying stuff for him or my friends and family.
2006-08-23 18:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋