he didn't show. He works with his Dad, his normal time on that day is 3:00, at 5:00 his mother called to say he was taking care of business with Dad, be home soon,at 9:00 I called his Mom, no answer, and she doesn't drive, I got worried. At 11:30 he comes home they all went out to eat and shopping.How would you feel. I am furious.
2006-08-23 18:38:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I appreciate all the answers. I wasn't concerned until it got late, his Dad has a heart conditon.
But later I found out that a young man doing work for his Dad went along...this man is a nephew of a woman he lived with for 8 yrs. I became really mad, and he said I was being a *****.
2006-08-23 18:57:22 · update #1
I'd be furious, too. My husband often goes out with the boys after work, and that pisses me off. Even more when he doesn't answer his phone. I feel ya, girl. Anytime you want to vent, im me.
2006-08-23 18:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by angela_2tx 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd get furious too, and before my anger gets further, i'd be damn curious to know why that happened. Was it a spontaneous decision ? Was there any other reason for him not even tell you and go out, perhaps his parents forced him to go with them....or anything.. Whatever it is, I'd still be furious. Once you know why, or dont know why, I wouldnt really be interested in any conversations with him for a day or two....perhaps he'd make up for it, and perhaps i'd calm down and just decide then on any further conversations i may want to start....also, keeping in mind if such situations have happened before, evaluate my relationship with him and his parents...
2006-08-23 18:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, he has his "mama" call you, and lie to you no less. I'm sure she loved that one. That is low down and dirty. I don't know maybe you should ask him if he'd like to sleep with his mother. Because it seems like he's gotten the priorities on you two mixed up.
You are not the only woman who would be pissed off. Infact, your husband would have a hard time finding even one woman (including his mother) that would not be upset if the same thing had happened to her.
2006-08-23 18:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you upset because he was taking care of business or are you upset that he did not meet your exspectation of coming straight home?
My point is you got the call that he was working late. If that doesn't work for you or the imformation is not accurate, get him a cell phone. At least you know he was with family and not just screwing off. I understand why you are upset though.
p.s. Deep down inside your question, there is a sign of tug-of-war between you and his family.
2006-08-23 18:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by dadnnelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you have any reason to suspect him of anything other than being with his parents? It was a bit rude of his family to not invite you but you must know how they are. I would be angry but not necessarily with him. If his parents are the ones who dragged him out and didn't call to invite you then thats your mess, he may have felt weird inviting you on their behalf, when they didn't suggest it. Maybe there was a cash flow problem? Talk it out with hubby and let him know that your feelings are hurt, but don't get angry over dinner with parents, it's not worth it. Feel grateful for the time alone! Now if they're covering something up for him that's a whole other story.........you need to get mad very mad!!! But check your info very well before ASSUMING!! Be careful, Be safe.
2006-08-23 18:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should have called if just out of courtesy. Why did his mother call to to tell you what he'd be doing? Was he afraid if he called you'd sense he was lying? Why weren't you invited to go? I would be furious, too
2006-08-23 18:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by ok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very inconsiderate. You need to let him know so it doesn't happen again. I don't think you should make a major issue out of it though. You have to learn when and how to pick your battles.
2006-08-23 18:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset and hurt as well. If they wanted to have dinner with just the 3 of them then they should have been honest with you. That was rude and insensitive of all of them and you have a right to be angry. You are apart of that family and to exclude you was terrible.
2006-08-23 18:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow tell his mama to cut the umbilical cord off your husband he is a mamas boy , I mean he should of called you to let you know that he was going to dinner with his family, but wait aren't you his family too,,,I would check your mother in law , and put you foot up your husbands ***, that mamas boy....
2006-08-23 18:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too. Why would they lie to you and leave you out like that? That's just inconsiderate of your husband not to call and let you know where he was.
2006-08-23 18:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋