we have been dating a little over 5 yrs. he has been married 2 times and neither divorce was his fault. his last ex still is putting through alot. she' s a gold digger. he says he loves me but i want a commitment from him. we're not getting any younger and i don't want spend the rest for my life alone.when we talk about this he cuts it short and says he's content and not shopping for anyone else.
2006-08-23 18:37:03 · 10 answers · asked by sandy8dalejr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ask him
2006-08-23 18:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that he has two divorces is the main reason why he does not want to get marry again, But the one thing you should remember is that a marriage is between two people so do not believe when he says that both times were not his fault, You only know his side of the story plus it has been twice not once.
If he has never given you a clue that he wants to marry you it means he will probably never ask you because he feels comfortable that he has no commitment. Think about it; after 5 years he should at least give you some kind of plans for the future. Set a time and decide if you are willing to waste more of your life waiting for this guy to marry you or just move on and find somebody who will.
Good luck!!
2006-08-23 19:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like hes afraid to marry again,after 2 divorces hes not ready for a commitment with you at all,hes happy the way things are. I married a man that married twice before he thought the same thing until he met me, he felt i was the one we dated 5 yrs but because I was scared after my divorce,I didnt want to go through that again,but we've been married for 7 yrs now and 2 kids,its the best and happiest of my life. Im glad we took the chance,but if hes not willing to than you have to decide if you just want to stay that way or move on. good luck
2006-08-23 18:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by alwayssmiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't really guess..I'd say askin is the best way. But then if you really love him, then maybe you should respect his fear of marraige. Are you willing to give in to cohabitation instead of marriage?
2006-08-23 18:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why get married? Heck no!!! If i was him and you pressured me about marriage after all I have been through I would leave your a$$.
2006-08-23 18:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by *ICE* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"when we talk about this he cuts it short and says he's content and not shopping for anyone else."
......i'd study relationship standards and skills and learn how to get him to talk with you RESPECTFULLY about what you need to talk about!......
'content'???
.........he's using you!
try these
http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice.asp
http://www.cyberparent.com/relate.htm
2006-08-23 18:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really know, but if there is a way to find out, let me know :-)
2006-08-23 18:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by tjosen2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about kids and family....ask him if he would like to meet ur parents....he will get the idea....trust me...
2006-08-23 18:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lambada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't look as though he will
2006-08-23 18:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Can't!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-23 19:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋