My ex husband does not want to pay child support. However, he is
giving me a fraction of what it would be if it were based on his
income. There is no court order that he is to pay child support. It has always been just between us. I'm asking for more now, but he refuses. Will a judge order him to pay? Will the court set the amount, even if we've agreed on a lower amount?
2006-08-23 18:20:03 · 16 answers · asked by Lady J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, and tells our son that if he has to pay more, he won't get the car he promised him when he turns 16. And he won't have money to give him for college. He makes me sound like a greedy person.
2006-08-23 18:21:02 · update #1
Take him to court. Let the court decide. He's had every opportunity to pay and he hasn't. This is your child's welfare we're talking about. It's not like this child materialized out of thin air. The man has a responsibility and if he needs to be forced to realize this, then so be it. Maybe the threat of jail time will set him on the straight path to do the right thing.
2006-08-23 19:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't get the child involved...!
Anyway, what are his reasons? If he really really doesn't have the money, then even asking won't get you any. But if he doesn't want to give the money, it's a bigger problem. Any parent would want the best for his children, if he doesn't want to pay, he might not care that much about. For what you say about him talking in that way to the kid, it seems like he might not be a caring father.
Also, talk with your kid if he is old enough and together make a list of how much really you need. IF he sees you (actually him) really needs it, then you can't be the bad one because you are asking for him. Next time daddy talks to him, he can honestly say "well, you won't get me a car, but I don't want to leave the football team either!"
2006-08-23 18:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by GN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you are in but the kids should not be hearing jack about any of this. Let it go or Go to Court.
Yes, the courts will set and order an amount. Why don't you move on to a better guy for you and the kids?
2006-08-23 18:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex Husband may not want to pay child support but depending on what state you live in when the courts are done with him he will wish that he would have compromised with you and just gave you the extra money you needed for HIS children.
2006-08-23 18:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to hire me. You'd be surprized what a gallon of gas and a pack of matches could do to the human body! hehe...just joking!
Take him to court and let a judge order him to pay. A letter from a lawyer advising him of a pending court date is usually enough to make him pay. Your lawyer can draft up an agreement and it is as good as a judges order but much cheaper.
Dead beat dads give the rest of us men a bad name.
2006-08-23 18:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court and he will probably be ordered to pay 30% of his income. But this money is for the child. Too many women think its money for them to get their hair and nails done and go to a tanning salon. This happened to my uncle. He paid child support to his ex and she bought designer clothes for herself, tanning memberships and hair and nails every month. Then she would tell my uncle that there is no food in the house and that he needs to buy some or his son is going to go hungry. He fixed that though. Whenever she would spend child support on herself instead of groceries and then call my uncle to buy food, he'd go over and pick his son up for breakfast, lunch and dinner and then take him back home or he'd take McDonalds over to his son. She caught on quick and stopped acting like her son was a free paycheck.
2006-08-23 18:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court, the judge will set an amount that is bases on both of your incomes, if your husband made 80,000 and you made 20,000, 80+20 = 100 percent, your husband made 80 percent of your total income so he would pay 80 percent of a designated amount that the judge sets.
2006-08-23 18:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ahold of the child support office. they will try to garnish his wages...and if that doesnt work they will suspend his drivers license and even issue a warrant for his arrest. my daughters father doesnt pay child support to me either. He needs to realize it isnt about you...its about his responsibility to your son :)
Also, something I learned first hand, make sure you have a record of correspondence between you. I had to resort to only email communication because he is such a good liar and he had also threatened me. Its always good to cover you butt!
2006-08-23 18:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down, as much as it hurts, take him to the Friend of the Court and let them decide. Men like him you have to let the law get involved. He is not hurting you.....he is hurting your baby
take care
2006-08-23 18:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put it this way if he is being there for his son as a father and gives what he can then why push it. If you cant settle for that then maybe your son should live with his dad and you pay.
2006-08-23 18:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by *ICE* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋