Did or do you.........?

Question

wet your bed at night? why? for how long? what did you do to stop? was the wetting connected to any disturbing emotions or family stress? how would you handle your child's bed wetting? did spanking, threats or humiliation help you? could your parents have done anything better for you? are or were you ashamed of your bed wetting? does Google offer any websites for bed wetters? what's your advice to others?

Answer 1

I didn't when I was younger - well I am sure I did as a kid kid but not at any age where you shouldn't. I would take my child to a doctor immediately if this was an ongoing problem - there could be a medical problem that needs attention though if you are talking about your kid or someone you know, you didn't mention their age.

If it is an emotional thing, surely any physical punishment would be out of the question - even if it wasn't emotional, that wouldn't be right or called for at all. Something is wrong and he or she is probably embarrassed about it and doing anything that is not being understanding and caring would make it worse and make a kid feel horrible.

It is humiliating so further humiliation wouldn't help - it would make it worse. This is normally not something they can control because for some reason they are not realizing that their bladder is full. Any kind of punsihment would be the worst thing you could do. I have read that numerous times before - to never punish a child for this.

I have heard of bed(wetting) alarms and heard that they work for kids or that buying them new bedding of their choice may help since they wouldn't want to wet it but again that is not going to work, in my opinion, since they are not doing it on purpose.

Also, the parent should:
-limit any liquids hours before bedtime
-praise their kid on mornings that they did not wet the bed
-wake them during the night to go to the bathroom (they then may get in the habit of doing this themselves)
-make sure the child goes before bedtime and see if they have to go again before actually getting in the bed
-caffeine is a diuretic so it may make them have to go more - aviod that.

I would definately take them to the doctor immediately and see if there is any medical reason. Also, there are tons of books about this so if you get a free day, head to the bookstore and just do some reading there - you don't have to buy the book. So - overall it is just changing the pattern I think - get them up, no liquids, maybe even a slice of bread before bed to absorb any excess liquid - and the doctor. Make sure you praise, praise, praise when they don't do this and maybe get them something - like a toy to emphasize that positive reinforcement. It will stop sooner or later - if you try these things and see a doctor, probably sooner. Good luck~