My sister just had my nephew in April and Im loving it. Im always baby sitting and taking him on weekends, and now I feel that urge to want a family even more now!
2006-08-23 18:15:34 · 21 answers · asked by Sam B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There honeslty is no good or bad time. Just do it if you want it. My husband and I waited 10 yrs before we started trying. We were both set in our ways, had our great incomes, all the toys & free time we wanted, gave each other undivided attention, and we were completely unprepared for how badly a baby shakes up a world that you have grown so accustomed to. I wish that we would've started when we were younger and had nothing so we never knew what we were missing that way we wouldn't have had to 'retrain' ourselves so that we could be good parents.Plus, we found out it takes us forever to get pregnant. I really thought waiting till we were financially ready was a good thing, but now I realize , there is no such thing. Plus, Now we are 5 yrs older, and trying again & having a hard time concieving.
2006-08-23 18:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by pritigrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say when you are confident that your marriage will be long lasting and it has stood the test of time.
Also I really think that parents should have enough education to have a decent job and a sense of job security.
Lastly, I think they should have saved the downpayment for a home. Working a few jobs to come up with the extra money would be hard on a child. The cost of college has skyrocketed and owning a home is going to provide a nest egg for retirement and an asset to borrow against for college.
So you definitely want to be financially secure before adding the responsibility of a child.
Also children are having lots of trouble functioning these days. Things are going wrong, but no one seems to know what. To be safe, I think it is important to have lots of time to spend with a young child and to spend it in nurturing and constructive ways. Saving so you can take some time off of work may be important to the emotional health of your child. Parenting guides always have loves of information, none of it tested. But, they are still useful to read.
When I was waiting for children, I read fertility books, pregnancy books and parenting books. It was fun to plan.
2006-08-24 01:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-24 01:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a pet. One that you think you and your partner wouldn't want and then see if your able to love it no matter what. The "Kinder" in "Kinder Warrior" is germanic for child. Having kids (or pets) doesn't come with a return policy. And too many kids are really F'd up by parents that are not emotionally, financially or socially stable. I'm glad you asked this question before you did the deed. Saying "I don't know" is the first sign of real intelligence.
2006-08-24 01:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kinder Warrior 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that is different for every one. You seem to be wanting it right now, and that's great. I have a 6 month old son, and I can't wait to have another one. But for every person that says, 'oh, 25 is the perfect age,' there is someone else saying 'oh, you have to wait until 38 to have your first.'
I feel that having children while I'm still young myself is best, because I feel like I have more energey to devote to them. I see my fiance's father with his two youngest (9 and 7) and he doesn't have the energy to go do things with them like he did with his two oldest (19 and 21).
On the other hand, I know many people who felt that it was best to wait until they were homeowners instead of renters, with real careers instead of just jobs, until they were 'financially stable' enough to have a baby. My fiance's father didn't get to spend as much time as he'd have liked to have with his two oldest either, because he had to work so much to have the money for the things they needed and wanted.
There are two sides to every coin, and only you and your future husband can call this one.
2006-08-24 02:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-24 01:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by amd730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby one year after I was married. Although I wouldn't trade him for the world, I often wished I would have waited a year or two, to give US a bit more time to adjust and get to know each other well.
But really, the right time to start having children is whenever you both feel ready.
2006-08-24 01:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by nightevisions 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear that after getting married...the best time to have a baby is two years later. why? well, you would want to have husband and wife time first before mommy and daddy time. waiting for two years is also a good idea to see how well you and your "husband" get along. you wouldn't want to have a child and then end up divorcing because you and your husband don't get along and put the child in that position, right?
the two year wait is just a suggested timing. everybody is different, so it can be less or longer than two years. but at least have some husband and wife time together first!
2006-08-24 06:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once u are married as soon as u and ur husband feel ready for a family, go for it, babies are a blessing, nothing make su happier then the first time u see the little bundle of joy.
if u dont already have your slf settled into a house then id wait for that. if u areboth ready good luck and congratulations on the wedding
2006-08-24 01:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years after getting married because if you rush into having a family you won't be able to enjoy yout spouse. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 01:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Eli_86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋