i'm now currently staying in a hostel. but everynight my room mate will be out with her friends and i'll be left alone in the room. also everynight i will not have any company to have dinner with. i feel lonely staying in a hostel. i'm not very close to the other pple staying in the same hall. i thought of moving out after two months. but i'm worried dat after moving out i will definietl have fewer friends in school. the friends i have will only be my tutorial mates. but if i continue to stay, i will feel very lonely at night and i'll start to miss home. there will be times when i'll just cry alone in my room.
2006-08-23 18:06:22 · 2 answers · asked by jeanayr17 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Why don't you go out with your roommate? Or better yet, why don't you invite some of the people that are on your hall. Your social life is what you make of it not so much about your location. Yes, some living situations can make it easier to make friends then others but you should just get out there and introduce yourself to people. As scary as that might sound, they aren't invincible, it's not like they are perfect and will think bad of you because everyone usually wants to make new friends. If your roommate is going out then share your feelings with her. Tell her that you need to be social or you are going to move out and maybe she will lend a friendly hand. Hang in there, be confident and if you don't feel like making friends, definitely do not stay in your room and cry all night. Given that you are staying in a hostel, I am assuming that you are in a foreign country so get out there and learn the city. Even if it doesn't sound like very much fun to venture out by yourself you would be surprised how empowering it can be. And when you are out there, look around. There are probably more people wandering around by themselves then hanging out with friends. Take care of yourself first, be happy and the friends will follow!
2006-08-23 18:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seems to be an shy and quiet person. Your social life will deefinitely not be affected, you dun need to change yourself social life to suit others. Even you join your room mate and her friends you must have common topic to chat then it will be more interesting otherwise life will still be the same for you, don't you agree? Sometimes you can mixed around with other friends or go to the web and chat with your friends. Sometimes you can go home for while so you don't feel too lonely coz after family warmth is something you can feel.
2006-08-24 23:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋