What do you do when you fall in love with somebody Else's man?

Question

I fell in love with this man and i later found out he has a women. What do I do now?

Answer 1

there's no right or wrong answer. it depends on your values.

if you think trying to win him won't leave your conscience at peace in the long run, then don't do any initiatives. maybe you could at least tell him your feelings but that's all. it's not that you're expecting something. let him decide for his own happiness and weigh the possible consequences. if you really love him truly, you would always want him to go for whoever or whatever it is who makes him happy. you would always aspire for his happiness - even if that 'happiness' doesn't include you in any way.

on the other hand, if you have a personality strong enough to stand for anything you want, and you believe that the good men are always taken that you always have to steal them anyway, then go. just be careful of your actions so that should hurt be inevitable, blow is softened and the number of people who'll have to experience it will be at the minimum. you also have to prepare yourself for the outcome because by the way i understand your question i don't see that the feeling is mutual, yet. how assured are you that he'll stick with you if you take the chances?

go back to yourself and your definition of 'love'. all of us who'll answer here can give you tips and advices but when the moment comes that you meet him again face to face, you alone will do the actions and say the words. what i could pray for you is the courage to stand for whatever decision you'll make.

good luck.

Answer 2

If this man is married, then you are dealing with fire, and have no business getting involved with a married man. However, if none of you are married, and there is no ring on the other girl's finger, then he's fair game. Tell him to leave her. If he leaves her for you then all end well, if he won't leave her, he's a player, and who wants a player.Remember, if he can cheat on her, he'll surely cheat on you too. It's only when you really find that right guy for you and truly fall in love that you are not willing to risk the relationship by cheating. I guess you are bound to find out if he's worth your love, if he ends his current relationship.

Answer 3

How did you fall for someone else's man? Did you not ask him if he had a companion? If so, did he lie and say no and later on you found out otherwise? If he lied, then don't you think that he would do the same thing to you? To many what if's are involved...let it go.

Answer 4

You found out he "has a women" AFTER you spent enough time with him to fall in love? Leave him... he was lieing to you at the begining and that's never a good start, even if he is in the process of leaving her (you don't make it clear if they're married, shacking, or just dating.)

Answer 5

I'm not a godess so I'm not gonna tell you to wish them luck and happiness..but if they are in love, then just hope tht someday the break up and try to move on at the same time.

Answer 6

Do the right thing and leave him alone. If it's meant to be then when/if he breaks up with his girl you can go out with him. But a girl with class isn't going to go after a guy who is already in a relationship.

Answer 7

since you already know he has another woman, why are you still asking? how would you feel if another woman fell in love with your man? thus, u should leave him

Answer 8

you should probly leave him alone. he may have kids that could get hurt. and if he lied to you he would most likley leave you as well. men now a days think they can get away with anything. even cheating.

Answer 9

let it go and find your own man. that is too much drama and have u stressed out over bullshit.

Answer 10

consider your self a ho if you dont wait your turn hopefully it aint your friends man