We have been married 3 months. This is an ongoing problem for him. Sometimes he likes to kiss and hug, sometimes it annoys him if I want to. We are 63, but he says I am much younger in this. Is this normal for 63? I am not nessessarily talking about sex. I do look and feel very young. Should I be different now? Please only decent answeres. I am a christian lady. Thank you.
2006-08-23 18:01:57 · 10 answers · asked by NewHope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a newlywed as well, my husband and I have been married for 2 months and we have a similar problem, just opposite. He's very affectionate and I'm not so much. When we were doing our pre-marital counseling with our pastor who married us, we learned that we have different "love languages". Love languages are different ways people feel and give love. He is very affectionate because that is how he perceives love, where as I am less affectionate, but find assurance in him providing for me versus constant physical affection (just personality differences). I know it may sound kind of funny...but it really has helped us to work with each other and understand each other. Our relationship has been better since we've been working with our love languages. It's very interesting. I'm not sure if this helped, but good luck!
2006-08-23 18:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by maldmb03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that this has always been an issue. More then likely he was raised to be this way. Many men grow up believing in order to be strong they can't show emotions, with this comes lack of affection as well. Your age has nothing to do with it, being in love and wanting to show this love is NOT age bound. Have you tried talking to him about it - asking what he doesn't like or why, and how it bothers him. Maybe getting him to open up a little will be the beginning to more intimate conversations. Intimacy is huge for many men, and it's something they have to slowly learn to feel safe and comfortable with. Ultimately, emotional intimacy will lead to physical intimacy - not referring to only sex, but all forms of physical intimacy. Remember, when and if he opens
up try to show acceptance no matter how hard, otherwise it may just back fire. Best of luck to you and your husband.
2006-08-24 01:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well age is just a number ,and why would he ever be annoyed someone showing him love ,Age has nothing to do with showing loveable attention to the one you love .He has the problem hon you dont .No dont you change for no man ,how was he dating I bet he like the attention then !so ask him what his problem is and you want to be with someone that feels the same .I would feel like he does not have the same feelings meaning the love you have .And for him to have the nerve to hurt you by telling you it annoys him ???he could have gave you a medical reason because he need to tell you more than just it annoys him .dont change stay the way you are .but I would do some serious questioning >ok good luck God Bless yah .
2006-08-24 01:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for 26 years and my husband has never liked the touchy feely thing. At first when we were married it did bother me, but then he shows me in other ways. If he shows you in the things he does for you then just relax and dont worry about it. Get a dog or cat to love on...lol.
2006-08-24 02:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie most men aren't as affectionate as us women. most seem to be shy about showing their affection. but sweetheart the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. so get in that kitchen dressed sexy and cook him his favorite meal. you'll get all kinds of hugs and kisses. if you don't then the next night cook him a tv dinner and i'll bet he'll think about it . good luck !!!!!
2006-08-24 01:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by sandy8dalejr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's an age thing..but then some ppl just aren't sticky sometimes. I personally don't like to be asked and annoyed too much.
2006-08-24 01:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people resist intimacy from time to time. It's not personal. Maybe he have some things pressing on his mine. Give him some room. Let him come to you.
2006-08-24 01:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think thats wrong,,you should show your love and be affectionate at any age,,,love doesnt stop as you get older, in fact it should get stronger with age...unfortunately some people did not grow up in homes where affection was shown which comes through in their relationships..
2006-08-24 01:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. I am in this same boat sister
2006-08-24 01:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry -- but the visual images in my head are making me nauseous -------
2006-08-24 01:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋