My husband of 2 years just told me that he is leaving me for another woman.(The woman that he met last year that he said that he had no contact with). I still love him and want to be with him. What should I do?
2006-08-23 17:54:03 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let him go
2006-08-23 17:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, sometime you let it goes really easy, you will be amaze how it fire back on him.
But I would of find out for sure what is the reason he left you. If he loves you he would not leave you with another woman. And if he doesn't love you, I would of say YAHOO! I am free from that jerk! And move on. I am so certain your next love will be much better than this one. Just because you are now sharper and you can see a jerk like that from miles away. Be happy. and you got us to cheer you up. Love peter.
2006-08-23 18:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by retep75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really want to play second fiddle? You will never be truly happy with him. And you would never fully have him. Even if he stayed the other relationship would always be in his mind.
If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it's yours, if not, it never was yours to begin with.
I woudln't wait on him, but, maybe in a couple of years he will realize what he lost. Maybe not. But if he doesn't, everything happens for a reason and I am sure you will find someone that you will love even more,
Get involved in some activities. Volunteering and seeing others less fortunate than me always makes me feel better about my situation. Go back to school. But you have to move on. You are in my prayers.
2006-08-23 18:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry hun, I know that really hurts, but there really isn't much you can do but let go and move on... you can't make someone stay or love you.... but if he is looking for greener grass's he's in for a rude awakening.... you can never trust him again, the bond is broken just don't make it easy for him if he finds he made a mistake because then he'll think he can come and go as he pleases... men like that seem to forget respect.... they are very self absorbed.... You will meet someone that will treat you right and he loses... Good luck sweetie....Just remember, every break up is one step closer to the one you are supposed to be with...
2006-08-23 18:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him pack! Dump all of his clothes out on the lawn and tell him you're keeping everything else! You can't make someone love you sweetie, but you can get even when they screw you over. And that's exactly what he did. Do you honesty want to go through the rest of your life being second best in his mind? Sure you could go through the motions of counseling and therapy and put your heart and soul into making this work, but is it really going to matter if he's thinking of someone else? Don't do this to yourself. You deserve better and in time you'll find better.
2006-08-23 18:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him adios and get yourself some counseling to find out why you feel you should settle for someone who has so little respect for you that he broke his marriage promises to you within the first year of your marriage.
In five years, you will look back on this as the best thing that ever happened to you. And he will have already cheated on her several times over. Get going and good luck.
2006-08-23 17:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geeez, thats bad, but then again, don't stoop so low as to sell out your own self esteem, if he wants to be with someone else then let him, you can't keep a person by force, well, you can but i think its against some law or something like that.
the truth of the matter is just let him go, he don't care about you and looks like he never did, find a new guy and whatever you do, do not take him back if he comes crawling back
2006-08-23 17:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...let me say how sorry I am. I know you're in a lot of pain right now. However, consider yourself blessed that he did finally come forward with the truth. Worst case scenario...you could have been in the dark for years while this man continued to lie to you and cheat on you deep into your marriage. Trust me.. it would be even harder to let go then.
Good Luck.
2006-08-23 18:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by khismom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare he marry you, then tell you 2 years later he is leaving for someone else, How In GODS name did he get past the VOWS he took. PEOPLE you better WISE UP, the only way you can TRUELY END A MARRIAGE IS BY DEATH. I don`t care how many times you say I DO, its only GOOD the first time ,IF THE FIRST ONE IS STILL LIVING, If their dead yor free to marry again. THATS IT. Matthew chapter 19......ITS CALLED ADULTRY< NOT FORNICATION,FORNICATION IS SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. YOU THINK GOD DON~T KNOW THE DIFF?
2006-08-23 18:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As sad and as hard as it will be...let him go or you will both be miserable. I know you are supposed to fight for your spouse...but if that's the reason (he's met someone else), then don't waste your time. Get into some counseling, talk to a friend, relative, or pastor. Don't hold in your grief...because that's what you need to do...grieve. I'm sorry ((((hugs))))
2006-08-23 17:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by SoCalBeachGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so hard :( I know you can't understand this right now but you're best off without him. He's not emotionally secure enough to committ, and he's just going to use her like he used you. Call your family or friends. Cry as much as you need to. But don't take hm back, understand that this is his issue and has nothing to do with who you are.
2006-08-23 17:57:11 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋