What is the right age to have a boyfriend if you are a responsible and competitive in school. I don't know how what's a better way to ask this, but if you want to get into top universities in the nation, like the ivys..does having a boyfriend distract you from studying and your determinations?
Especially for THE asians, what age do your parents allow you..since i'm an asian.
2006-08-23 17:51:44 · 9 answers · asked by Madison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
so what age your parents allow you..or you hid it from your parents?
My parents and i never disgussed about this issue
2006-08-23 17:59:31 · update #1
I'm asain and to be quite honest. I'm still NOT allowed to have a boyfriend and I'm 17. I do however and had some. And I know how you are feeling. The right age comes with when you feel like you can juggling another extra thing in your life. Right now, I've been in a committed relationship for a year, my grades are a 3.7 with a competitive course and I'm an all state musican and college performer already. (I don't want it to sound like I'm braggin)
You should have a boyfriend, because I think that it's an important part of growing up and devoloping time management. If you feel ready, and know where your prioriety lies, go for it!
2006-08-23 17:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Euphony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no right age. Anone who has had the privilege of studying at important univesities comes away grateful for the academic lessons and the discovery of new interests. Perhaps even more valuable, and lasting, are the experiences outside the traditional confines of the university (translation: contrary to the message most students get in high school, there's more to lie than academic excellence and school-run activities). Socialization and developing relationships are a huge piece of schooling.
That said, many of my Asian and Indian friends at Vanderbilt struggled with parents whose values were more conservative and traditional than theirs. You have to decide which of those values you embrace as your own, and which you push back on. Your parents probably control some of the purse strings, but they either do or soon will accept that this is YOUR shot to live and make choices (some good, some bad).
My parents took the stance that you should be given as much latitude as you prove you can handle; when you prove unable to handle freedom, it gets curtailed. My take: Don't let the stress of future education detract from the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to enjoy your youth. Oh. And sometimes enjoyment and excellence can go hand-in-hand. Be sure to look at Vandy when you start applying.
2006-08-23 18:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Wojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will definitely distract from your studies, get an education first because that can't be taken away from you. If you have a chance to go to an ivy league school, you will always be studying, etc... it wouldn't be fair to the other person or you to be in a relationship right now. Your so young...you have so much time to find a partner in your life after school...focus on school and career and the right man will find you.
2006-08-29 11:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by schoolgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i'm an Asian too! heh. I think 17 or 18 would be just fine. But it also deoends on u. if you can handle both college and your boyfriend, then it's ok. But it's tough and you've got to fight against all odds. college isn't a cake walk, you know. so you better think about it first, before making any decisions.
2006-08-23 18:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by mail_ribz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's o.k. to be attracted to a guy, but don't let him distract you from your goals,the right is probably when you graudate... you know ,don't get so involved, because you have a long road ahead of you, and guys like a lot of attention..so keep your head up honey, You're know the right time for this,I f you're smart too!!!
2006-08-30 04:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a "right" age, unless you're under 12, then you're obviously too young. I think it depends on the maturity of the person. If your schoolwork is good, you're responsible, and over 13, then I think you're ready!
2006-08-23 18:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lexy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know im 14 and cant have a boyfriend but im not asian i think the parents should be less protective cause im good in school and trustworthy to
2006-08-23 18:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by nikki fm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok thsi is the total truth i myself say 15 i had my first g/f wen i was 15 (not to brag but in middle sckool girls used to like me and i never went out with them y cuz i was busy on my sckool work and skateboarding now im sponsered and travel all over he country so yea my) i have now been 1 1/2 years with my g/f
2006-08-23 17:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by skateboard everyday allday 24/7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asian girlfriend me like
2006-08-31 04:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋