what steps would you as a parent take?

Question

if your son is transgendered and wants to be a girl

Answer 1

id let him do it just not on my dollar.

Answer 2

If your son is 18 or over, you need to support him.

Transgendered people should go through a lot of psychotherapy prior to any procedures. Most doctors will force it. I agree.

If he is under 18, wait. I don't think any doctors would perform any procedures before that age without your consent.

Read up about GENDER DISPHORIA so you can get more into the mind of your son. He cannot help the feeling of being trapped in a mans body. Can you remotely imagine how he feels?

You will also need therapy yourself. Many parents of gay kids or transgendered kids go through a lot of guilt....like it's their fault.
It's not. What is....is.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well , that would all depend on whether he wants a sex change or just dresses as a girl. Your son may still be straight but like tthe way womens cloths feel.If this is the case then he is just showing his feminen side which all men have.Most men just wont addmit this. I have been crossdressing for years and i,m not gay , i love women but i love their cloths too.now if he is actually wanting a sex change then before you agree to this , take him to counciling. im not saying he is mental he just needs to make sure that is what he wants because once it,s done then it alot harder to reverse. At any rate, you shouldnt hold him back from expressing himself. Mom, you should take him shopping and help him get an entire female wardrobe. This will show him you WILL support what ever he does and gives you a chance to make sure he looks good

Answer 4

I don't know..I don't know what the steps are...but I'd find out quickly..and I would continue to love and support my son. I know little about transgender situations..but i can only imagine the amount of guts it takes to go through it.

Answer 5

The steps to take:

1 Support him; don't resist his wishes.
2 Learn all you can about the whole subject WITH him.
3 Locate WITH him a small number of trans people and talk with them. Write WITH him their narratives as trans pioneers as a way to develop respect for these people and for himself.
4 Be consistent in indicating that these are decisions only he can make, so he had better know what he is doing.
5 Respect his choice. Love him unconditionally.

Answer 6

Depends on how old he is. If he's legally an adult, I'd find out how long he's known/wanted this and ask him to give it more thought. Surgically changing your gender is a huge step that needs a great deal of consideration.

If he's underage, I'd tell him it's not happening until he is a legal adult, then go into graphic detail about what the surgery actually entails. If he's still serious after that, well, that's up to him.

Answer 7

I'd support him the best I could as his/her mother and love him/her unconditionally.

My child has been such a gift to me, I could never hate him...never.

I'd find a councelor who specializes in gender disphoria and can help him/her to understand the risks, the challenges he/she will face and help him/her learn the coping skills needed in his/her journey.
NO doctor would allow a minor to go through with the surgury and it's always required that the candidate live as his/her internal gender for no less than a year. This means changing his/her name and dropping all opposite gender pronouns when refering to him/herself.
I would be there through all of it, supporting my child every step of the way.
This would be my flesh and blood, I would never intentionally do anything to add to my own child's suffering.

Answer 8

Well, I do rather think he's screwed up at this point, and I don't know how old he is. Consider this, however: At this time in his life, he's probably already very screwed up in the head, sort of as if someone cut the top of his skull out and inserted a mixer. And, likely, his parents have done piss-poor jobs as parents (no offense intended, but sugar-coating this would do no good). Now trying to control what clothes he wears and how he cuts his hair is only going to lead to him despising you even more, and force him into doing whatever you don't want him to. So, love him, accept him for what he chooses to be, and make him understand that you'll always be there for him, whatever his choices. Do NOT yell at him for it, make fun of him, or insult him. You're on the verge of losing a son, but at least you'll have a "daughter." Do not permit yourself to have no child, but a runaway who hates your guts.

Answer 9

Just realize that this isn't a decision he is making in his leisure time. He really had to think about it before he even admitted it to himself. Imagine how scared he was to tell you. No one chooses to feel that they should've been born as a girl when they were born a boy. It's a lifetime struggle. If the only way for him to feel happy about his life is to become a girl, I'd help out any way I can.

Answer 10

The individual know best of himself. As parents we can guide and help him but we cant force something on to him. As long as he is aware os the consequences and is willing to live up to it, then its right for him to decide. Parents can only provide moral support which is what is needed at this point.

Answer 11

I'm not a parent, so I can only say what I think I would do. I would be supportive, but I would want him to wait until he's at least 18 to be sure it's what he wants.