Or will you let it cool down a bit then phase out over one or two months which is kind of difficult too because you still feel that you are attacted to the other person the longer to stay may be the longer it will take to get it over on your and his/her part
Tough decision time. please help
2006-08-23 17:26:41 · 48 answers · asked by 1001Questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cut off the relationship now without prolonging your misery or theirs. But have the decency to set the other person down and discuss the situation with them. Tell them how you are feeling and why you have decided to end the relationship.
Do not just simple dump them and run.
That is not fair to you or the other person.
Give them the tool needed to put closer to the relationship.
Try to be delicate and gentle about the whole thing. Do not cause any more unnecessary pain then you have to.
Think about how you would want the situation to be handled if the shoe was on the other foot.
2006-08-30 13:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you sense right away that a relationship isn't going to work, then trust your first instint, that you are most likely right. You should end the relationship as soon as you can. You don't wan't to continue or prolong it anymore then youe have to. That way you can both get on with your lives and no one is leading the other person on to what may never be. The longer you stay in the situation the harder it is going to be to break it off. So, my suggestion to you is to make a clean break and not one with jagged edges so correct the situation promptly and good luck!
2006-08-31 07:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
Give yourself some time and see what happens. Then you will know the other party well.
2006-08-31 01:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still getting regular sex, stay in the relationship until that slows down and then cut it off. It is obvious that this isn't going to work out so you might as well make the best of a bad situation. Wait until a good cutoff time (e.g., if you are both in school wait until semester break), and until then enjoy the sex. A break-up is a break-up and it will suck whenever it happens so you might as well get something out of this while you can.
2006-08-23 17:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by LaNell the Relationship Expert 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will hurt the other person less if you cut it off right away. It may not seem that way, but in the long run it will be better for both of you.
Good luck with your decision.
2006-08-28 21:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe the relationship will not work out, best thing to do is to break it off right away. the longer you stay in a relationship you're not happy with, the more painful it'll be for the other person.
2006-08-23 21:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be honest about the way you feel than to continue to lead the other person on. Whichever way you go, the other person is going to get hurt, but it is better to sever things if you don't think you want in the relationship anymore because your partner's feelings toward you might grow even stronger.
2006-08-30 16:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based ur decision on this thought: what if it was u who were being prolonged? How would u feel if ur partner had someone else in the waiting? Is it still a tough decision 4 u to make?
2006-08-30 06:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by kerik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, no sense in carrying it out. The longer that you keep it going the worse it will get. I would want someone to be honest with me and not just stay with me because they didn't want to hurt me. That really isn't fair to either of you.
2006-08-29 16:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by aleynam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to end it now. you answered it yourself, the longer you stay the harder it will be on the other person who does care. But you can also answer this question. what if the other person was you. Then what would you want the other person to do.
2006-08-31 05:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by letitbeyou1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋