He has been working in fast food and seems too content there. I have suggested he go into management there, but he won't. I have suggested many things. How do I motivate him into a field that can grow with him? Any ideas on careers?
2006-08-23 17:08:51 · 23 answers · asked by GRETA G 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Um, HE has to pick.
Tell him you need him to either contribute more to the household, go to school, or move out.
He might not find out right away, but he will figure something out.
Many colleges and junior colleges have classes that help students figure out what they are good at. The other thing you need to reassure him is that he doesn't need to think that he's going to be doing the same thing for the REST OF HIS LIFE. Statistically, people change careers 4-7 times. I know that kept me from figuring out what I wanted to do.
2006-08-23 19:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still pretty hard to pick a career at that age. Im about to turn 21 and Im not entirely sure if Ive picked the right career.
Dont force him to enroll in anything or force him into a longtime commitment with a career. That WONT help. Just try and expose him to as many career fields as you can, and let him make up his mind. That way he isnt getting into something he hates, and he'll be pursuing a career for the right reason, which is what employers look for.
2006-08-24 00:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by azza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him to finish school first. Try a career in either hospitality or restaurants other than fast food. Motivation is dependent on the person. Have him complete course in the fields he desires. Forcing an individual to do something will never work.
2006-08-24 00:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by snaik320 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19 did you have a career? I didn't. I did not choose a career, it kind of chose me. Sometimes you just have to let things happen in your life. I would have never thought that I would be working in the healthcare field but I have been there for over 20 years. Just take a step back and let him experience life. Now if he were 40 and still undecided, I would be worried too!
2006-08-24 00:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by ru.barbie2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can lead the horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
If he is content- he's doing far better than the majority.
By forcing your feelings and ideas you will certainly alienate him.
“A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do.”
“The greatest thing a man can do in this world is to make the most possible out of the stuff that has been given him. This is success, and there is no other.”
“Treat a man as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he should be, and he will become what he could be.”
The fellow who has no money is poor; the fellow who has nothing but money is poorer still.
“Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.”
“It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”
“It's the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary; only wise men are able to understand them.”
2006-08-24 00:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I imagine he will eventually get sick of the fast food job. I don't think that trying to motivate him will work, as he is probably resistant to your prodding, unfortunately. Like a lot of kids his age, he will realize later that he has wasted time and should've gotten off his butt sooner. I don't think that he will do this until he's ready, and what you do won't make it happen sooner.
I hate to say it, but he should've been steered towards higher goals years ago, because perhaps then he'd be interested in going to college or thinking more about his future. It's a tough world out there, and a lot of young adults don't realize the reality check they will soon be receiving. Unfortunately he will have to make his own mistakes and learn from them.
Good luck.
2006-08-24 00:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are quite a few websites where you take a survey and it gives you career options that suit your interests. I wish I could give you a website that I had to take at school, but it was a while ago. Ask your son what he likes to do, perhaps if he doesn't like working for someone, he could consider starting his own business. I took a business class over the summer (originally for fun) but I learned soo much about myself and my interests. Maybe that can help.
2006-08-24 00:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kaitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you pressuring him? A lot of 19 year olds I know don't even have jobs. When I was 19, I was absolutely content with my paycheck and my weekends of fun. The more you push, the more unattractive any other path looks to your son. Give him a break and be thankful he's not a junkie.
2006-08-24 00:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some information on the Internet about careers that you may think he would be interested in. Then sit down and talk to him, and tell him the importance of having a career, instead of working at mickey D's.
2006-08-24 00:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At his age youre expecting way too much. He'll find something in his time. If you need to have this great success of a son I suggest you make up an imaginary son that does the things that would be worthy of your unconditional love as a parent.
2006-08-24 00:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋