i broke up with my bf for college...im a senior is high school now, and i miss him a lot! i know there is a chance that he may go to college and come back for thanksgiving a completely changed person.. and this depresses me because i dont want to grow apart... we have loose plans to get back together...
in the meantime, we are going to keep in touch via email and phone calls. one one hand, i dont want to be that stalker exgf that alwyas calls and responds to emails the very next day. on the other hand, i dotn want to be so distant that he forgets about me
i guess what im saying is, i dont know how to approach our new relationship. what are soem ways to keep him ensnared in my charm and still want to give things a try later on?
2006-08-23 16:56:37 · 8 answers · asked by mervelash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you could just try to match your pace with him. if it takes him 2 days to email back, then wait 2 days to respond.
if you want to skip any games, you can just wait and see what it feels like. if he still feels interested, then maybe try bringing up a reunion of sorts. if he talks about all of the other girls hes meeting, maybe hes over it. or he could possibly be lying to make you think that he was extra desirable where he is at.
2006-08-23 17:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by lady beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a new boyfriend. move on. so what if he changes at college, not the end of the world. you will be going off to college and becoming a dating machine. There are lots of boys, and boys that will treat you better than he ever dreamed of treating you. If he is really the one for you and you were meant to experience the plans you have put together, You will change right along with him and grow together instead of apart. JUST DON"T WAIT, you will look less attractive that way,
2006-08-24 00:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really don't want to be broken up at all. I understand that you want freedom in college. But why? Do you really want to try and date other guys? If so, then why are you so worried about your boyfriend? Or is it just that you don't want to have to deal with long-distance relationships? Let me tell you, it's just a test. It may be hard, but it's possible. If it's meant to happen, no distance can seperate true love.
That being said, distance can be a GOOD thing. I followed my boyfriend to college. We're on a "break", but we still act like we're together. So many times I wish I could get away, go to the school of my dreams, Cornell or Yale. But I can't leave him behind. So it's a VERY GOOD THING that you chose your own path.
You're an individual, and a great one at that. If you truly want to get back together with this guy, then please just try a long distance relationship. If you truly want to date other guys, which I don't think you do, then just be open and honest with your ex boyfriend.
Consider this: Would you be happy if HE was dating other GIRLS?
It sounds like you want to be with him, you're just scared. It can be added pressure, no doubt. But being without him, worrying about ever being together with him, that's pressure too. Which pressure do you want?
Best of Luck. Please, let me know how it goes! E-mail me anytime. I'd be glad to chat.
2006-08-24 00:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have two options.....
1. Keep in touch with him and hold on to the though of gettin back together..which is ok..I did it..But please understand that he is gonna meet some other girls and will date cuz college is not a joke its a whole new thing......and you will get lonely too and John who locker is next to you will start to seem more attractive..etc
2. Just let it go..if you are to get back together then worry about it then for now enjoy your senior year because its your last year of high school..and you should be enjoying your fellow senoir moments..stress free. talk to him and all cuz who knows but keep it at a certain level so you can't get hurt!!!
2006-08-24 00:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by sweetchic117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to go to college, I would just sever the ties. You'll meet gaggles of new people, sexy brilliant men especially. You should allow yourself the freedom of the single life to express yourself as you see fit. You mentioned your ex boyfriend changing, you will as well. Your last year of high school should be the beginning of your self exploration. Don't feel obligated to scoop up a man to define you.
2006-08-24 00:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the reson you fell out ? is he a vagabond - or does he harrass you ? all depends on the rerason of your broken reletioship.Did the relatioship broke beacuse of some misunderstanding or your fault.It is very difficult to give you advise. Thnk about all these and decide yourself.
2006-08-24 00:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused as to why you broke up with him, or did he break up with you? If you are that involved emotionally with him, I don't think you should have.
If he broke up with you, then that's another story. Sounds like he wants his freedom.
2006-08-24 00:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't break up and still be together. You need to pick one. Look in your heart and decide what you really want.
2006-08-23 23:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋