2006-08-23 16:46:05 · 16 answers · asked by AMY 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
Find a good lawyer..things are about to get messy
2006-08-23 16:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by hipergirl22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, for your kids sake, if possible try to work out a way with him that you and him both can still be a big part in the kids life. Second, don't go and jump into a new relationship, take time. Time for you to assess the things that you and him did wrong {because it is always wrong on both parts, even if your wrong was just accepting the bad things the other person did}, and also give your children time to deal with the big change that has just occurred in there life, sometimes it is hard for parents to remember that this divorce happened to more than just the to members of the marriage.
WHAT'S NEXT?......You have a world of opportunities out there, and just because you won't be married anymore will not stop you from taking advantage of them. I believe that if people better there self in 3 ways {Physically, Mentally, and Spiritually} there is nothing that can stop you. I have just came to this conclusion, and I have concurred the mental and the spiritual, but that damn physical is giving me hell ;). This is going to be a really hard thing that you are about to go through, but stay strong, stay focused, and know what goals you are aiming for and you can reach them. Best wishes!!!!
2006-08-24 01:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think my marriage is over.what's next?I have 8 yrs old daughter and 20 mons son.?
u r just thinking..it's not happening yet..so don't fret..all u need is some consoling n someone to help u thinking..
2006-08-24 00:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by •°¤*♫*¤°•fisco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated that your marriage is over but you failed to say why it may or may not be over. Is it over because he may be having an affair with another person or is he abusive towards you and your children. Have you two drawn apart as in love or caring or has the closeness that was there no longer there. There are many reason to have a marriage over but to have over and then to have children also involved in the middle. You may say it is over for many reasons and if this person is mean and abusive get away from them and take the children and get help. If some thing is missing try to find it and let your spirits and your faith be your guide. Good Luck
2006-08-23 23:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by lonehermit2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well cant help if i dont know for sure marriage is over... why do u think this.. have you done things to help prevent it from happening? and if it is truly over well all i can say is dont dwell on it cause it will only hurt the kids more.. just move on be happy being independent.. raise your kids with all the love and support you have get a job work take care of kids and live carefree for a while . and least when you expect it someone new will walk right into your path.. so dont go looking for a new man.. time will heel you and youll know when your ready for that new man..
2006-08-23 23:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's next is divorce court. Be sure orders for support, custody and visitation are in place. The two of you need to sit down with your daughter and explain that although you and daddy no longer love each other and have to live apart, that it doesn't mean that you both love her and her brother the same.
2006-08-23 23:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been there so read this carefully:
1. Go for counseling and really take care of your emotional health because the truth is this is a very difficult stage on your life and you will need to be strong.
2. Also try to find marriage counseling. If it doesn’t work, try to end the relationship in a friendly way, remember just the good days for the sake on your emotional stability and your kids.
3. Cry and take out of you all the frustration, but please don’t do it in front of your kids; they can feel the pain even if they are young.
4. Look for support in your family, friends, and your church (if you go to one) but don’t let them to take decisions for you. Just look for support when you feel that you need help.
5. As soon as you can try to find ways to be financially independent. That if you’re not working. If you are, save like crazy because soon you will be in very difficult times.
6. Do not talk to your kids bad about their father or let them see both of you in an argument. It will be better if you are honest with them and tell them that it didn’t work but you two still love them and will love them forever even if you are not together. Find ways to make them have fun or do things that make this stage easier for them.
7. Buy new clothes, change your hairdo, do exercise (yoga is very relaxing and help with the anxiety) or take belly dance classes (they are oh so good), find a new hobby...all to uplift your broken spirit and make you feel better about yourself
8. Beware of the vultures…there are men that like to take advantage of women in your position, you will be tempted, but take your time and beware of them.
9. Above all TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, you will be raising those kids and they need a mother that love herself, that know how to survive sad moments...I survived, sadly millions of women went through the same but THEY SURVIVED you too will survive.
Good luck for you, a lot of success in your new life and blessings for you sweetty! You can do it!
2006-08-24 00:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Daniela Sylvester 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep it together for the kids. Don't argue in front of them. I seperated from my boyfriend of 10 years. We have a 6 year old, 4 year old and 2 year old twins that he had no problem calling me out in front of them. Remember their feelings and remember they're always listening. It's terrible to have little kids come back and question you on things that are said in anger. You're in my prayers girl.
2006-08-24 01:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next is to do the best you can raising them. Don't listen to what other people say, you are a single parent going threw a very difficult task of raising two children all by yourself.
2006-08-23 23:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling first, if that doesn't work, then get a divorce. You said the marriage vowels.....you have to deal with your spouses personality, regardless. Marriage isn't easy, and a divorce isn't either.
2006-08-27 23:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If so I'm sorry to hear that, if you and your kids are better off (abusive marriage etc.) than good ridens!!!
Either way if its time for you to have your life know, so be it!
Concentrate on what makes you happy, and what is best for the kids. Good luck to you!!
2006-08-23 23:51:16 · answer #11 · answered by Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋