Just wanted opinion /advice...I am 9wks (unplanned and excited) my boyfriend won't tell his parents becuase he is worried that he won't have answers to all of their questions about our future and he says that they have a lot of stress so he wants to wait to tell them, also my family was in town and he had the same reasons for not introducing our families...(my family lives 1500 miles away)it hurts my feelings and he thinks I am being silly..am I, should I get off his back about it? (FYI:we are not young I am 34 he is 42)
2006-08-23 16:44:46 · 8 answers · asked by PediRN 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He is 42 yrs old. Tell him to grow up and tell his parents. It's already late anough as it is. Why wait until it's to late. I wouldn't stop bugging him. In fact if he doesn't want to tell his parents about the baby tell them for him.
2006-08-23 16:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In short, his avoiding telling his parents and not introducing families at the first opportunities is something creating anxiety - irrespective of any reasons. Any how since both of you are old enough and mature, you can think of well about your relationships. You must be knowing better how responsible person he is.
I suggest that you try to create an opportunity of letting his parents know of this fact in some smart way and then see his conduct. Third time avoidance on his part should be sufficient reason to review the situation seriously!!
2006-08-23 23:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by helpaneed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is running scared. You two need to sit down and talk about where things are going and how they are going to be handled before he tells his parents. However your families should have met because like it or not they are now related by blood.
Have a good talk and don't wait too long to tell his parents the longer you wait the harder it is.
2006-08-23 23:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are both 37 my Husband and I. Pregnancy is a huge adjustment to any couple. Regardless of age.
I think your boyfriend is acting a little immature and insensitive toward you. Takes two to tango.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. It's the most wonderful thing in the world.
2006-08-23 23:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ontario_Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...he needs to grow up a lot. Maybe he doesn't want the child at all. Well he needs to be a man, and face the consequences. That's just life. He is a grown man, he should know how to deal with his parents.
2006-08-23 23:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a beautiful time for both of you let it resonate for a while see how you both feel about it no need to bring [other people] in right now wait until the time is right. Believe it you will know!!!
2006-08-23 23:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask for what you need. It sounds like he is immature and self-absorbed. You may have to raise him before he can help you raise your child. You are going to start showing soon, so he needs to get it together and stop acting like a petulant, spoiled little boy.
2006-08-23 23:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to act like a adult. Why is he worried about what his parents think? You have every right to feel the way you do!!!!!!
2006-08-23 23:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋