I just hate when I talk to my friends who work they act like I have it so easy because I stay home.Which is frusterateing because unlike them I never get a break I do not go out and party I take cae of my kids everyday all day!So I'm just curious if other stay at home moms feel that way.
2006-08-23 16:38:28 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm not a stay-at-home mum but my wife is.
I wouldn't say that it is society in general, but more a vocal sector of the workforce that is simply jealous because they don't know any better.
You and I both know how much effort you put in. Any decent parent would appreciate that.
It is a lifestyle choice. Your financial situation versus spending quality time with your developing children. I don't see either as right or wrong, simply different. Each to their own, I say. However, if asked, I'll say that time with your kids outweighs any financial benefits that two working parents can provide.
Keep up the good work.
2006-08-23 16:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know, I am in no way trying to be mean or anything, but I am basically a single mother. My marriage has fallen apart with my daughters dad and I am moving out soon. He does even less now around the house when things were going good! I hold down a 40 hour a week job, do all of the laundry, do all of the child care the moment I walk through the door (I can't even undress, eat or take a shower before I have to start caring for the baby after working all night long!), do all of the house work, pay all of the bills, make all of the Dr. Appointments, I recently had oral surgery and he wouldn't really even help when I really needed it. I give all of the baths, do all of the grocery shopping. I think you get the picture!! Consider yourself lucky!!! I would give almost anything in the world to be a stay at home mom, at least then I would have a little more time to get things done and spend quality time with my 12 month old. Hey I may even get around to reading a book or two when the baby goes down for a nap. I am in no way saying that your life is easy, but mine is a hell of a lot harder, count your lucky stars!!!!
2006-08-23 16:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I know that this is for the stay home moms and they deserve a gold medal for all that they do for their family and the ones that the love. There are some out there that just do not care but you do have some stay home dads and they also go thru the same thing and they have to raise their child and make sure that everything is done for their better half. Some of them both male and female are alone and doing this with no help and people look at them in ways that make me sick. Some feel sorry and others feel pity but they do not try to understand the real meaning of caring for the ones that we love. Sorry that I went on so much but I have raised my child and now I am helping raise my grand children. God bless all you women that do stay home to teach your child the right from wrong.
2006-08-23 16:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by lonehermit2000 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I stayed at home with my son for 13 years. I just started working part-time outside the home.
I never worked as hard at any paying job as I did as a stay-at-home mother. It feels unfair.
The way I tried to look at it was that I was fortunate to be able to stay at home and give my child a safe, loving environment. Unfortunately, there aren't a lot of quality child care alternatives.
Of course, I still got frustrated and depressed sometimes. Being a stay-at-home mother can be a thankless job. But if you stick with it, you may be proud that you did. And, things get easier as your child(ren) get older.
Good luck to you!
2006-08-23 16:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by wlmssb 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe not "hate" anymore! But it is amusing to see the condensending attitudes others have.
I love to fill out forms that ask for "occupation" I ALWAYS put MOM for my "job" title
. It is a 24/7 position and the benefits last a life time.
Don't worry what others say. You are doing the right thing for your family. Your children are privilaged to have you as a Mom.
from one who has been "at home" for 18 years!
HANG IN THERE! Find other stay at home Moms to network with and exchange babysitting with so you get a break now and then.
2006-08-23 16:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by redeemed 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Single women don't understand how you feel,or what your every
day living is like. It doesn't matter what they think, you may have
a better life than them...They feel they have to hustle, at work,
hunting for guys all the time, feeling they'll always be alone.
They are probably jealous or being ignorant. Regardless, I have
been where they are, and beyond. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Men downgrade "stay at home" moms too. They just wish they
could sit at home and be lazy and watch soap operas. But
that is so far from the truth, kids require alot of energy, patience
love, and TEACHING.......Ignore them. Their stupid, and will be
in your shoes someday. But they might be miserable !!! lol lol
2006-08-23 16:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Sorry, I'm not a stay at home mom... but, I am a single dad... Perhaps they are somewhat jealous... From my point of view, I relate it to my weekends... I love them... I get all day with my son, and we have the chance to take advantage of everything that is not available to us from the hours I get off work until bed time... I think it is the same attitude people have towards those that are self employed... If that makes since... You don't really have to answer to anyone..
2006-08-23 16:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by dudeabides 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely. I live in a small town, and all the other SAHM I know had great careers and working brains. We didn't lose them just because we decided to stay at home with our kids. Some days I wish I had a job to get away from my little monsters, but I am willing to sacrifice what I want for what my children need! Just get used to it. There are stupid people everywhere.
2006-08-23 16:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well let me be the first one to say this...I feel your pain..My bf acted like that too. I trief telling him that staying home and taking care of kids isnt easy Especially newborns or babies. He always told me I needed to go get a job and see how hard it is. I told him to spare me the pity party then told him he needed to stay home with the baby and let me get a job as he suggested. He told me no because he got the point lol
2006-08-23 16:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by redhead 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes I experienced that too. I just tried to hang out with other stay at home moms. They were more supportive.
2006-08-23 16:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by weswe 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋