Do you think 14 & 17 year old sons should have to wash their own clothes and clean their own rooms?

Answer 1

Absolutely, and pronto.

Answer 2

Most definitely. Boys today do not get married as soon as they get out of high school. The parents are responsible to teach their children, both male and female, how to maintain a healthy living space. My sons knew how to cook, wash dishes, wash clothes, clean bathrooms, dust and vacuum, and make their beds before they were in 10th grade! Both now in their mid-20s have found that I was after all, not being lazy, but smart! Both have thanked me many times.

Answer 3

not sure about 14 washing clothes but 17 should
both should clean their own room/rooms

Answer 4

Who is asking this Q? My sons were doing All forms of houseworlk by age 14. They could shop and cook for the family (10) as well. They didn't like it but if they wanted a life, well... .Also, I didn't pay them to get good grades either. They are now reaping the benefits.

Answer 5

Absolutely Yes !! mom need help so why not help her all over the house not just your room or laundry. Help her more in ways you can If no sister round the house. beside now is the time for any child living with parents should help because soon or later you will do for somebody so why not for A dear mother. Lets not 4get kids mother come first.

Answer 6

Well, I'm 17 and I've been doing my laundry for 3 years. And I've been cleaning my own room since I was like...walking? So yes, they should be.

Answer 7

Uh, yeah. If they don't start doing it now, then you're going to hear from their wives at some point in the future complaining about how they still don't do it. Honestly, I'm somewhat surprised that they aren't cleaning their own clothes & rooms already. (From a 25-year old guy)

Answer 8

I don't know why not. they have to learn to do it some time. They should have been cleaning their own rooms since they were 8 or 9.they should be learning to cook as well

Answer 9

14 year old no 17 yes

Answer 10

These are tasks they should have begun to do since age 3 for room cleaning and age 8 for personal laundry. I don't expect the most thoroughly done job at the beginning - a 3 year old is unlikely to be able to say,wet mop a room or dust off a bookshelf- but anyone who is old enough to expect privileges as I can be sure boys of this age will be loudly demanding,is by the same token old enough to expect to carry out certain responsibilities as part of their contribution to the smooth running of the home. It is certainly not too much to expect a teenager to be responsible for maintaining the cleanliness of his wardrobe and his personal space in the home at the very least. It is not a form of child abuse to also expect that they do other chores around the home such as lawn care and yes,meal preparation. Every one over the age of 12 should be able to cook at least three healthy meals(peanut butter sandwiches,microwave dinners and bowls of cold cereal don't count!).

Frankly I'm surprised such a question should be raised to begin with. Unless they have a physical disability that makes it impossible for them to fulfill their responsibilities as family members, I'd advise them not to be silly and to clean up their act- literally.The 17 year old is likely college bound in less than a year,how does he expect to handle himself away from home if he isn't trained to do at least basic housekeeping and laundry? If he gets to the outside world unable to care for himself ,his living space and his belongings ,you would have failed him as a parent.

On a similar note,you have no business paying your children to do tasks around the home. They live there,eat there,watch your cable and use your internet and phone. They are a part of the family and they have to act like it.

I was responsible for a great deal of the household chores from age 8. While I would not advise that an 8 year old be given quite so much of a workload as I'd had, in the long run I became exteremly competent at housekeeping, grocery shopping (from 12),school lunches,breakfast and laundry ( all three of which were part of my portfolio for myself and my siblings from age 8).
For a few years we lived in an area which had sporadic running water so the water for laundry etc had to be brought from some distance and I'd do the best I could not waste it. I guess your boys have access to those lovely modern contraptions called washing machines? well I didn't for that long and difficult time in my life.But hey,I survived to tell the tale. And no,this was not in the far distant past,I am only in my early thirties as I write.

Bottom line ,don't ruin your children's lives by letting them grow up lazy and incompetent and incapable of taking charge of their lives. Send their behinds out to the kitchen to fix an edible dinner for the family at least once a week. Make one person do everyone else's laundry one week and the next week someone else takes it up. Help your boys to become men.That's why you're their parents.

Answer 11

not yes but hell yea. they need to do something out sides of eating up all the groceries, using all the things that the parents provide them with like clothes, lights, water, gas, insurance, school supplies, transportation and all the other necessities. not that it is not the parents responsibilities but they are young adults and they need to do their parts because later on in life they are going to see that utilities are not a joke.