2006-08-23 16:35:13 · 28 answers · asked by melissa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a widow with a good memory. We would lay there and just be..........
2006-08-23 16:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, April G isn't very smart. My husband and I went through a period of that. My husband was very depressed. It happened for about a year and no matter what I did, he didn't want me. Give him space when he needs it, make sure the house is clean, the kids are disciplined, meals are prepared, etc. Treat him with RESPECT and reverence and w/ some time he'll come back to you with all the passion and desire as before...maybe even more. Just keep loving him, and don't give up. America is based on divorce...don't be a statistic.
2006-08-23 23:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book "the proper care and feeding of husbands" or check it out of the library. It can change you marriage. It may give you answers to how men think and what they need. Listen your going to get a lot of advice telling you he is wrong and to leave. If you are willing to do what you need to do he will always be willing. Women have all the power just learn how to use it.
This book is by Dr. Laura Schlesinger and you can read it in less than a day. It is very easy to follow and really make sense. I would want to know I did everything I could do before ending my marriage. Good luck!
2006-08-23 23:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking, "What do you do when you and your husband no longer have sex, and he doesn't love you any more?" Is this what you are asking? (because your grammar is off, and the wording is misleading..... sorry).
If this is what you are asking, i.e., what do you do...... you (if it is you) file for divorce, if sex is important to you....It's just that simple, if that is all there is to your question.
If , on the other hand, you are a fat pig, you have poor hygiene, you keep a messy house, your children are undisciplined, you have spent him out of house and home, and watch tv all day and eat bonbons, then, I'd say he needs to wake up and divorce you, because you have made yourself undesirable.
So, really not a lot of info here, hon. You want an intelligent answer, you must ask the questions with all the facts in an intelligent manner --- at least at the 6th grade level of describing the situation....
2006-08-23 23:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No man can go without sex... it just doesn't sound right. Atleast show some affection, which he isn't doing.... I'd assume he's cheating, but before jumping to conclusions, sit him down and have a long conversation as of why he's suddenly never in the mood anymore. It could be that something is just bothering him.
2006-08-23 23:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you have been married IMO..... I would definetly try a Marriage Counsilor.. If that doesn't work then he's not willing to open up the lines of communication which for guys is very difficult anyway... Ask yourself this... who shut down first you or him? I don't believe in divorce although it happens more than it doesn't but you just don't stop loving somebody... Theres definetly an underlying problem. Least thats my .02
2006-08-23 23:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by mrmmacd77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still havre sex w/ husb. not like before when soooo intimate and its not like makin love anymore but we have alot of sex and I am happy he still thinks of me in that way after 20 yrs. gained alot in the last five yrs and tryin to get back to the 100pd. size 1 but dont think gonna ever make it, he never thaught I would of gained we have 4 kids and never gained but age has mean tricks, but as long as he still thinks of me in that way for daily I will be happy and take what can get but miss it, try to do somethin you havent since kids and get a lil risky in the bed have showers w/ if hes will and do things like you use to not just normal plain, it does work!!!! good luck and should be better fo ya,catch him off guard
2006-08-23 23:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently something is missing here.He is either cheating or turned gay.Have you tryed to spice up your marriage? I would go get a new nighty.Try to get rid of the kids for the night. Maby cook a intimate dinner for two.Take a hot bath together,light some candles,get some wine.And win HIM BACK!!!! He was yours to start with don't give up so easily.Let me know if it works. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-08-23 23:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the south, Sleep with your cousin.
If you live in the west, Sleep with his cousin.
If you live in the north, Well........... ain't too many couples up there doing it anyway.
If you are a "Vet" and live in a big city, especially if he ain't that great anyway. Crush about six Viagra pills up and put it in his coffee about a half hour before he go to work. Let him explain to his boss why he need so many breaks today. Not only will it make you feel better, but it makes me laugh just thinking about.
p.s. It works even better before church.
2006-08-23 23:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by dadnnelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex therapy could work for you guys, may be is something medical going on. Try eat more Dark chocolate, but make sure he eats tons of it. chocolate stimulate endorphins and that will increase your chance to reach an orgasm, works same with men (I tried that with my bf without telling him since he didn't want to have sex with me!)
Now if he doesn't love you anymore...well that is something else, try marriage counseling
2006-08-23 23:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have ya'll talked about the issue? I have just gone thur this and now I am seperated,he's seeing someone else.
I can only tell you to talk it out and find out why he's not loving. If you love him then the worst thing you can do is to NOT find out what's going on. I wish you all the luck.
2006-08-23 23:39:44 · answer #11 · answered by jojo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋