how do you ease back into moving in after you been seperated and giving the marriage a second chance?

Question

i been separated for 6 plus months now and the wife and i have been living apart but we have been trying to sort out our problems and give in a second chance how should i go about moving back in after our long seperation

Answer 1

I think that you should do it slowly. Start out by just spending the days there and sleeping somewhere else. When you feel more comfortable then start sleeping there again.

Answer 2

Dear allday, first of all I'm sorry that you are going through your situation. Here's what I think the two of you should do;
1. Go seek help from a QUALIFIED marriage counselor.
2. Do not move back in right away.
3. Begin to court your spouse again (date night once a week), get to her again and what has been going on with her the past six months.
4. move in only when your counselor believes it is alright. Even then, do the separate bedrooms. sex complicates things and tends to pacify the issues at hand.
5. make your marriage/ family your priority.
I hope that this helps you some. Best wishes!

Answer 3

It's difficult, but it can be done. My husband and I were separated for 6 months also. When we decided to give it a 2 chance, he moved in with me. We had already sold our place and I was living in an apartment. Anyway, it was hard, but we did it and so can you. Be patient, honest and loving. You will be surprised how fast things will go back to normal. Good luck :)

Answer 4

When you return back home, look at it exactly that way...you are returning back home. don't treat this return like it is a trial period. Move in, start living together like newlyweds and whatever you do in a heated argument, don't and I repeat don't ever threaten to move out again, or bring up your separation again. Bringing up your separation will only cause doubt, and keep you distant from the woman that you've returned to. Marriage is forever, treat it that way.

Answer 5

First and foremost, you have to leave ALL the past behind you. Start fresh, and romance her (i.e.,make special time to give just to the 2 of you, keep communication going, kiss her good morning etc) . Think about what attracted you to her in the beginning. Marriage is about compromises and understanding. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

My wife has been gone for just under 3 months.. I am hoping and praying that she will give me the 2nd chance you have been given.. she says she is divorcing me but I hope she will give one more go before that happens... I wish you the best of luck and hope you 2 are happy.

Answer 7

You know you may get alot of advise in this area, but this sounds like a good email to Dr. Phil. Sometimes you need the experts to lend you a hand. It's free, and won't cost you nothing. Let him know that your serious with your relationship, and you need his help and direction.

Answer 8

start having sex with her. spend days. date her. spend a night here and there. leave a toothbrush. get a key to her place. get a drawer. like eveyone else is saying, take it slow. you don't have to jump back into living together right away altho it sucks to be apart. best of luck...been there, done that.

Answer 9

Walk on eggshells......no really if you both have been working on getting back together...just keep the communication open.

Remember you are starting over......do things like you would have to win her heart the first time.

Hopefully you have both changed and grown up...take what you went through together before, and build.........

Answer 10

first of all i have to commend you both on trying to work it out.
second take it slow keep the communication open, and get the baggage of your problems taken care of so you two arent still dragging that stuff around with you

good luck