how old is too old for a man to father a child?

Question

i'm 23 and my husband is 39 i want to have a child but later like when i'm 25 that means he will be 41 is that to old or what is considered old?

Answer 1

Lots of men are older than 41 when they have children. If your husband is healthy and willing he can be a terrific father and maybe because you're a bit young he'll be an asset.

When the child graduates from high school your husband will be 58...just in time to retire and start the 2nd part of his life.

Answer 2

It ain't ever the years, honey, it's the mileage. Men make new, viable sperm well into their 70's. Many men have no problem with having an erection well into their 70's. Other men are already having erection problems by the time they are 30. Women, on the other hand, are born with all the eggs they will ever have. One matures every month from the time she is about 13, until she is about 52. Her chances of having a non-normal child increase significantly after 30, even more significantly after 40, and few women produce a good egg after 50. However, the uterus can still carry a fetus to term even if she is in her 60's, with a donor egg, and invitro fertilization. There are instances where a grandmother carried her own grandchild to term because her daughter had her uterus removed for some reason. It isn't common, but interestingly, it can be done. So, honey, 41 is not old. He'll be a great dad......

Answer 3

Dear young wife,
Age 41 is not too old to be a father...and a good one at that.

Do you plan to stay married for life and bringing this child into the world because of your love for each other and the child. You need to both agree what is best and loving for each other and the child.

As far as too old...I'd be more concerned if the man and woman were truly in love and committed to each other and that the child would receive plenty of true love, concern, support emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.

You can be mature at 21 and immature at 50. It is usually the other way around...but not always.

When you are 23, 30 or 40 can look old. When you are 50 or 60, 40 can look really young. When you are in your eighties, 50's and 60's are young.

I work with geriatric people and I've heard comments like...Enjoy your youth....and they may be talking about someone only 20 years younger themselves.

Answer 4

Men can be fathers at a very old age. The problem is old men do not have the same energy to raise a child, who is very demanding of time and caring. You and your husband are in a very good age now to have a baby. You are young, and he, I guess, is experienced and mature to guide a child. But do not wait. Is not good they are far away in time to share games. When your baby is 20 you husband will be 60. And he will be too old to enjoy the grandchildren. I wish all the best for both of you, and a long life together with your babies. Two or three...

Answer 5

He's not too old. My husband is ten years my senior and at 42, he keeps up rather well with our five year old. We had this talk before we had our last son and the rule of thumb we went by was to try to have the child near the age of majority by my husband's retirement and then to make sure your husband is in good health. I found that with our first child, my husband lacked the patience he has now, so I think it's a great thing.

Answer 6

You do need to think about one small thing. If your husband fathers a child at 41, he'll be about 59 attending that child's high school graduation, looking more like Grandpa than Dad. Not that it's a bad thing, just food for thought.

Answer 7

The older the dad the more likely the child will have Downs Syndrome. If your husband doesn't have any other children I would say you two should try having children in 2 years. If this is his second marriage and he has other children, I feel he should not have anymore. Sorry, but I am not one of those people who think you should do whatever you want.

Answer 8

Tony Randall becamw a dad (through natural child birth - not adoption) at the age of 70 years old.

I, personally, would not want to enter fatherhood at that age because:
1) I would hope to have a lot more time to know my child. If I die at 75, my child will barely know me.
2) At that age, I wold be looking forward to relaxing - not changing diapers and preparing to take my children to school every day for the next 18 years (if I last that long!).

Answer 9

My brother didnt have any children with his second wife she had 3 teenagers when they married. It didnt last. His second marriage he was 43 and she was 45 and she got pregnant on their honeymood. He is so in love with this child and its great. He is a tad bit overprotective and Im hoping he will chill some, but its still wonderful for him. Im 49 and raising my two grandchildren 2 1/2 and 3 1/2 and while its wonderful I sure dont have the energy I had when I had mine at 24 and 26. :)

Answer 10

Physically I dont think there is a limit for the man. My husband was just telling me Larry King has young children so you are safe. I believe David Letterman also does.

My husband and I had children at younger ages but to be honest with you my hubby is 44 now and I think he would have been better and more patient now then when we did but I am glad for us we did it younger since I am also almost 44 and would have not wanted nor could I have waited.

Kathy