He told her she needs a break, got her to take a couple thousand dollars and head out of state with their daughter to gamble (that was her choice) she could have gone somewhere else, she called and asked me to check out the house, sneak into the garage and see if there are any strange cars in there etc. Should I do it? How can I catch him up to something he shouldn't be without me getting caught doing it? Why would he want her to take a break without him so bad unless he IS up to something. Should I sneak up to their house late at night and go into the garage to see if he has someone else over way after the neighbors go to bed.? Ideas?
2006-08-23 16:30:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sent her out of town, so she could relax. Got her to take their daughter along, she wants me to drive out to their place in the night and sneak into the garage, to see if he has someone over, hiding the car in there? Ideas?
2006-08-23 16:33:26 · update #1
what is my name?
you guys are hysterical. Just playing.
I catch him plenty, and definitely with documentation. they are goofy friends from childhood. we all are. he's a doofus and she knew I would do the psycho drive by, she wanted extra for fun and no charge. He gives up his passwords if we suspect he's up to something. lol
2006-08-24 16:46:24 · update #2
most certainly NOT.
2006-08-23 16:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go into their garage - you might be mistaken for a robber and the neighbors could call the police ...and then what will you say? LOL! I understand that you want to help your friend though. I think the only thing that you can safely do is a 'psycho drive-by' This is when you drive by the house at random times to see if there are any peculiar cars around, etc. He might be up to no good, but it's really not your responsibility to play the spy. If she has enough money to gamble, she has enough money to hire a private investigator, which is what she should do. If she thinks he's cheating on her or something else undesirable, she's probably right and should go about 'nailing' him with solid evidence, not heresay from her friend (no matter how good your intentions are, they won't hold up in court, should it go that far) You also shouldn't get in the middle of their problems. It just might be the case that you end up being the 'bad guy' Sometimes people shoot the messenger, know what I mean? If you're the bearer of bad news, she could at some time think that you were lying (I know this sounds crazy, but when some women are in times of high stress and don't want to believe something, they can start fooling themselves into believing just about anything, including that their good friend has alterior motives) So long answer longer, don't do it. Advise your friend to hire a private eye. Tell her that you'll do a psycho driveby, but that's all your able to do right now.
Good luck!
2006-08-23 23:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how you will feel about this in the end. If she really is your friend, she wouldn't have put you in this predictiment, if I was her and suspected something, I would have taken the money stayed in the next town over and driven back to my own home when the lights went out and NOT continued on to gambling.
If he has any smarts, he wouldn't have another car in his garage anyway........what goes in.....must come out.
Hiding her in the backseat until the garage doors closes is another story!!!!!!!!
2006-08-23 23:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's up to something.....Keep an eye out for different cars. Don't go sneaking around at night. you could get hurt.lol or someone could see you and call the cops.LOL!!!! You could go over there to check on something(like a plant)for your friend. But I really don't think if he were fooling around he would bring her to his home. But then again, I've been wrong before.
2006-08-23 23:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do that you are asking for trouble. First of all sneeking in his garage could scare the heck out of him and what if he has a gun. Getting in the middle of your friends relationship is a no no she should be trying to find that out for herself. She could hire a investigator if she is really wanting to know. Just say there was a strange car in the driveway and you went and told your friend she would automatically think he is cheating and it could be innocent. It will start trouble with your friend as well. Stay out of it let her find out if he is being unfaithful.
2006-08-23 23:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your friend, and you should protect her --- but do you want to get caught in the middle of that? If they work out, you'll be the one stirring up trouble and it will be VERY uncomfortable to be around them. IF YOU have a LEGITIMATE reason to stop by, DO -- however, if it calls for breaking and entering, it probably is best to stay away.
2006-08-23 23:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by dizzygrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly not! If your friend is so concerned then there is probably good reason but consider this. If you find out that he is doing something wrong then you will have to decide whether to tell your friend and hurt her or keep it to your self and bear that knowledge. Also consider that she will know that you know and your relationship may change because of her embarrassment about it.
2006-08-23 23:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by ed_wendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do this/ if you don't then don't! It seems weird to me that she would go out of town to relax and take the kid with her; can't relax with a kid,DUH! Let her find her own mud and that should be enough for her! Don't get involved!
2006-08-23 23:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you might get mistaken for a burgular and get shot in the head. Let her hire a professional for her dirty work and stay out of it...where are your scruples?
2006-08-23 23:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by cheryl w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, ur friend is old enough to look after her husband. Besides, evev if the husband if cheating on her, ur friend will not appreciate u telling her that, so it's wise to butt out!
2006-08-23 23:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spy for her..........That will open a whole new can of worms if you DO catch him doing something........Just tell her that you can't go out of your way to babysit him while she is gone, but if you see something obvious you will let her know.........Take care!
2006-08-23 23:33:49 · answer #11 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋