your child or ya man????????

Question

my best friend has a boyfriend that is very young ,she always take him buy him what ever she wants , but theres one problem he beats her . hes only 25 shes 39 and also she has children 15 an 20 so now shes tellling me that the daughter said that hes making moves on her ,but i warn her and now look what happen . do u think she should let him go or take care her daughter ? i dont think hes right for her anyway to young and those relationships are risky.

Answer 1

i was in a position where i had a step dad for eight years...since i was 13. once i turned 18, my mom and i constantly fought. my step dad told me that my mother was selfish and doesn't care about me. it didn't strike me odd that he never lived with us, because my mom does act pretty childish. but like i said, once i turned 18...my step dad finally admitted that he "loves" me and wanted me to run away with him. i was absolutely disgusted. i never told my mother what he said until he left her for another woman. she asked me why i never told her when it happened...i told her it's because i knew she wouldn't believe me. after all, she kicked me out of the house right after my step dad confessed his love for me and not for my mom ::shiver:: now that i think of it, he probably thought that if i get kicked out of the house, i would be FORCED to move in with him. it didn't work out that way, i ended up living with my then boyfriend. i later found out that my step dad was telling my mom i was a whore because i was never home. actually, i'm one of the most clean cut girls you'll ever meet! i wasn't home because i was in the swim team (practice and competitions takes up time!) and i was in the colorguard team (lots of practice and competitions there too!). and since my mom wouldn't help me pay for my school activities...i worked too! so how on earth did i become a whore? all the high school parties i went to were chaperoned!

even though that was years ago, and my step dad finally left a year ago...my mother and i aren't close because that had scarred our relationship. i guess she ended up feeling guilty and i can't seem to forgive her for thinking so badly of me and trusting someone else over her own daughter.

i really hope your friend can see what had happened in my situation and hopefully make the right decision. men can come and go in your life, but your daughter doesn't.

Answer 2

All sounds pretty sick to me. Confirms what everyone already knows -- single moms have a tough time finding men who wish to take on the baggage of children. They get desparate and do stupid things. The only thing worse than being a single white mom, is being a single black mom. She's dating a baby, and she, in her heart knows it will go nowhere -- men don't like to raise other men's children. That the guy is now making moves on her daughter just makes the whole thing really messy. You ask, you child or your man? The guy is not her man, he's just phucking her. He has no interest in her whatsoever -- she's just a warm hole, and so is her daughter. But your friend is blind, and doubt that you could say anything to her to make her wake up.... sorry for her, sorry for her daughter.... what a mess, hon.

Answer 3

I will preface what I am about to write by saying that your children should be first and foremost in your life ... especially children under the age of 21.

I don't think the age difference is the real issue in this relationship ... men have been dating and marrying younger women for AGES and no one was said that was a problem (the ol' "double standard.")

However, what jumped off the screen at me was the fact that this man is BEATING her.

THAT is the problem. She should dump him asap and seek whtever support she may need to do so. Good luck to her.

~Eliza~

Answer 4

Your friend is 14 yrs younger to him and also has two grown up children. I can bet with you. They are both taking advantage of each other's weaknesses. He's physically abusing your friend and is also having an eye on her daughter! Your friend is living dangerously and is definitely putting her young girl's future to a lot of risk. She should dump her b/f now. He's nothing but a beast.

Answer 5

Tell your friend that the next time this guy so much as touches her OR her daughter, file charges against this creep and make sure he goes on a nice LONG vacation to the Grey Bar Hotel.

Answer 6

No one should be with anyone that beats them.Its hard to leave for some but in order to save her life and her families lives Romeo has to go.Age is irrevelant ; its the fact that he is physically abusive,,Anyone who physically abuses you doesn't love or respect you.

Sounds like Romeo is "her other child" and there comes when children leave the nest..So Romeo (the younger b/f ) must go.

Answer 7

she needs to take her daughter and get out, this not a good life for either of them and can turn deadly and if rapin daughter just sick if she really loves daughter the gifts arent gonna mean much the love is what she needs both do, get them out of there or turn him in so she wont have to make that decition,

Answer 8

He beats her and is coming onto her daughter (I'm not sure if you are saying that something happened between him and the daughter), and you are asking if he is right for her?

No, he's not right for anyone.

Answer 9

i dont think she is to old for him but she better let him go because u know how young girls r they will pretty much do anything for attention. haven`t u seen JERRY! but to take a beaten from a boy or spend my money on him she must be crazy, tell her there is free ding-ding out there. THE BOY MUST GO.

Answer 10

First of all she needs to report him to the police. If she won't come forth and turn him in for physical abuse, then she will never have a case. He will threaten her even the more. She needs to get out while she still can. My life isn't worth it.