My husband i found out went to jail for beating his ex (found out after we were married) Now he threatens to bash my face in when i defy him in any kind of way and always tells me its best i shut the f up if i know whats good for me when i say anything back to him in an arguement.
2006-08-23 16:25:17 · 49 answers · asked by naomihank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get out, it is just a matter of time before he follows through with his threat. [Especially since he has been convicted of this type of a behavior before]. I am a licensed social worker and have worked at our local women's shelter. I have seen first hand what these type of men do to the women [and sometimes children] in their lives.
Do you have children? If you do, that is even more reason to leave. Little boys learn this behavior by watching how their father's treat the women in their lives. Not to mention, I am sure you don't want your children to become the victims of violent temper.
This afternoon I was school shopping for my boys at a local store and there was a lady beside me. Her Nextel beeped and it was her "significant other" asking, "where the F are you?!" She responded, he then beeped her back and told her to "get the F home, NOW!" All of this out-loud for the other customers to hear. She was oblivious to the other customers and literally started to shake. She put her clothes down and left the store with her kids. The reason I am telling you this is because I want you to consider whether or not that is the kind of life you want to live. One where you are threatened, controlled and perhaps eventually beaten.
Git while the gittin' is good!
2006-08-23 16:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should leave your husband. If he has threatened to bash your face, it is only a matter of time before he does. I have been there and I know how you feel and what I am talking about. Go to your family for help on this one. I know it's a little embarrassing, but it's better to be embarrassed than to have your face beat in.
Please leave before it's to late. I waited a little to long. Don't make the same mistake I did. :)
2006-08-23 16:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a glutton for punishment or what? Why in the world would you stay with a person that talks to you like that and threatens you bodily harm? Heck yes you should leave him, with out a doubt... NO QUESTION!!! Why would you even need to ask such a question. I'd be gone, out the door a long time ago.
2006-08-23 16:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he threatens you hit him with a bat right in the forehead. Then call the cops and tell them it was in self defense. That way he will go to jail for a long time and never think about hitting another woman again.
2006-08-23 16:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a no brainer. Get away from this guy as fast and as far as you can. Seek shelter with a family member or reliable, trustworthy friend. File for divorce as soon as possible. DO NOT go back to him no matter how hard he pleads or how many promises he makes.
Okay, wait a minute. I checked your other questions. You defended your husband and asked for help doing that when he made threats against a boss. One day you are defending him, next day you are accusing him. I guess to you it only matters who he threatens , not that he threatens.
2006-08-23 16:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say to leave I know, its hard to do so and the love or and scared will bring ya back but if he isnt willin to listen to what you say or how you feel then its not worth the wait around and it will get worse and he wants the control and do waht he wants but doesnt let you do for you, you wont be happy and if he starts it mite end up too late, go and find a safe place to stay and get a man who respects and cares for you not hoew to control and abuse you,
2006-08-23 16:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should leave that man because if u wate any longer and u make him angry than he might hit u and i no ur probably scared but hun u got to before it gets to late and then theres no help for u so maybe u should leave like now because my mom is 31 and she one time made my step dad beaver mad and he actually beat her and poored achole on her and then caught the house on fire so tha is why im telling u to leave before it gets to late and im telling this for ur health not because i wanna make my self sound like an addiate it is because i care even though i dont know u i can still care about u because my mom dang nearly almost died and that is the last thing i wanna hear is that someone got killed because there fiance,husband or boyfriend hurt and killed them so im gonna say get out before it is to late and goodluck.....
2006-08-23 16:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a woman in a wheelchair once. She was a dancer until her husband stomped on her spine one night in afit of anger. Now she is paralyzed and has to rely on home health care workers.
Go to a safe place and do not come back until he gets serious counseling. If he won't, don't go back. Get a divorce.
2006-08-23 16:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nitris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi you need to leave. i was there 6, years ago. yet i got hit a lot and put down and cheated on. you need to leave. that is the beginning. they don't change. tell your parents and get a cop next time. you need someone to help you. saying it is abuse and threatening is worse. he says he loves you, but he thretens to bash your head in. hmmmmm??????? get out before he does do it. i fear for your safetey.
tasha
2006-08-23 16:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should leave immediatly! or would you like to have your face bashed in , or worse have your life ended? Threats are usually followed up with action !
2006-08-23 16:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋