Me and my ex boyfriend started dating when he was 15 and i was 16 and were together 3 years. then i got pregnant things started to get rocky but we were still together. He wanted his child so bad as a matter of fact he delibertly got me pregnant. So after our child got about 2 months he just stopped calling me. it has been 5 months and calls and hang up or acts like he is somebody else and asks about me and his daughter. i know he loves her maybe he is just scared that i'm going to be angry. Should i end this and call him?
2006-08-23 16:22:40 · 14 answers · asked by worried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that he needs to grow up. I would call him and find out what is going on.
2006-08-23 16:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your legal circumstances, but you need to consider custody issues. Does this man have any custody of the child?
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Yes: Then he needs to pay child support and make regular visits. You also may need to go to mediation to sort through some of his dysfunctional behavior. A good family attorney can help you with that.
No: Then you need to decide if you want this man to have any custody of your child. If you want to make him take responsibility you will probably have to take him to family court and establish paternity. If you don't want him to have custody of your daughter, then you need to notify him that he must stop harassing you and have his parental rights terminated--also requiring a lawyer. Once again, an issue for family court.
What do you think is best for your daughter? Could he be a successful father? Just because he loves her doesn't mean he should have any kind of custody of her. If he has any substance abuse issues or shady activities, you need to carefully consider your option. Her welfare must come first, not your feelings or his.
2006-08-23 23:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by kristinrochelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him. Find out if he really wants to be a part of his daughter's life. If he does, then arrange something so that he can build a bond with her. If you does not want anything to do with her then to hell with him. Let him decide if he wants to be a father or just a spem donor. I cannot completely believe that he deliberately got you pregnant though. It takes two and a man does not know the most fertile time for a woman. But anyhow, call him and let him know that he needs to make a decision of being a part of her life. Otherwise, when she gets older, she is not going to want anything to do with him.
2006-08-23 23:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i think you should have called him along time ago you both are adults with a child to consider. He seems to be scared of something maybe he thinks it is more than he bargained for reassure him that his child needs him and you cant do it by yourself. Talk to him i think a better idea maybe to have a face to face conversation find out where the relationship went wrong do it and do it now this child is gonna need u both.
2006-08-23 23:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Eisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe making the first move would help. I was a parent at 19 and scared to death. I still remember what it was like and that was 23 almost 24 years ago.
2006-08-23 23:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by wantoxcape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him. if he's just scared, than that'll take the pressure off him. I can't call the father of mine...he cut things off because I wouldn't be w/ him anymore and now doesn't want anything to do w/ his daughter. that was almost 4 years ago...and I really wish that I could at least give him some pics. don't let him walk out because of hurt feeling. take the 'fear' out of it for him. let him know that he can ALWAYS be a good daddy regardless of the relationship.
2006-08-23 23:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you end this? Hasn't he done that already? Have you any self respect?
I would like to ask you a favor.....could you please tell your story to as many single, childless women as possible?
I know its no guarantee, but a woman should NEVER have a kid unless there is a rock on that finger, even if it from walmart....This has been going on from the dawn of time, and will only stop until you women demand more from us men.
2006-08-23 23:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, give him a call and see if he wants to be part of your childs life, do not be afraid, always turn a negative situation into a positive one. Best of Luck!
2006-08-23 23:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by maury3222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him and ask him if he wants to be in his childs life...if not then get lost. But for ur daughter yes i would call him and ask him what he is going to do.
2006-08-23 23:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by anthony r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u really should stop it u r a mother now, grow up. im sorry to brake it to u like this but as mothers we cant take the bullshit from these guys. and u wanted this baby so deal with it.
2006-08-23 23:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋