Well i have written about this friend before. She says she does not love her boyfriend but does not want to be alone. They fight all the time and she says she wants him to leave but then the next minute she is being nice to him and says that she is sorry and all that. He is so controling, he doesnt LET her go out unless its convienient for him and when she is out he will call her a million times just to bug and see when she is coming home. She doesnt even know who she is anymore. She is basically living for him and jumps at his every word and comand. When they are out together she is almost connected to him, like she cant leave his side and trys to do anything to make him happy( get him this or that). He has gotten physical but she says it was her fault because she started the argument. And he always puts her down because she suffers from slight bipolar disorder so then she really feels that it was her.She is so outgoing when she is not with him, I want her to be her own person again
2006-08-23 15:56:25 · 6 answers · asked by mspink9700 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is nothing you can do for her except be supportive. That doesn't mean ripping on her choices... She WILL come around. It may take a while, maybe you don't have the patience. Being a good friend is very hard sometimes, especially when you see things clearly and your friends judgement is not clear. Your friend needs professional help-a psychiatrist and therapist. Of course this doesn't guarantee anything. Your friends life won't change unless she wants it to. It is her choice to get better or her choice to lead an unfulfilled life.
2006-08-23 16:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This poor soul is so co-dependent. She needs some serious counseling. If he is physically and emotionally abusive now, she may end up dead of some 'accident' later if they marry.
She needs her family to take a more active part in her life. She needs a counselor to help her through her co-dependency and the bipolar disorder because the dependency and disorder create a vicious circle that gets worse with time.
Is there a way you can get her into a different circle of friends? She needs to see other relationships that are not as controlling as this one so she can see that there are better things for her in the world. Hope this helps, take care.
2006-08-31 15:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-27 20:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel her pain. I have been through this and tell her that she deserves better. A true friend will help her know her self worth.
2006-08-31 14:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by shamogreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her over and over that she deserves better but if she doesn't believe it in her heart, she won't leave him. In a tough situation like this, just be there for her.
2006-08-23 15:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be her friend. u wont be able to make her understand. u have to let her find out wat a jerk he is
2006-08-23 16:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋