Am I being too PARANOID???

Question

My husband works in a different city and he leaves very early in the morning. If he comes right home after work he can be here by 5pm. Some days he doesn't get home till 7 or 8pm. He tells me he is working late. I will call work and I can't reach him - his cell phone is always off. What is up? He always has an answer and says i am too paranoid - then he gets annoyed at me. pls help!!

Answer 1

Check out his paystub. If there is some O.T. then he could be telling the truth. If there isn't any then it's time to confront him.
Or you could drive to his office and check him out...I am wondering why he doesn't call when he knows he is going to be late. I would think he wouldn't want you to worry. No you are not being paranoid...he is giving you reasons to be suspicious

Answer 2

Did he always work in a different city, as he does now? Do you remain close emotionally and physically? Do you still have common interests? Is his kind of job something that he has to be on the job premises to do? Was he like this when you first met? There are a lot of disturbing elements in the relationship.

Ask him to call you during the day to see how things are going for you. Make him his favorite dinner, or take him to his favorite restaurant. Many people forget that for love to continue, you need to remember that we all change over time.

Keep the relationship fresh and exciting. Make him want to see you at the end of a long day! Find things such as professional sports that you can watch together.

Answer 3

Maybe he is genuinely working late at the office like a meeting or something to do with paperwork, etc depending on nature of job/ position.
The reason he would turn off is phone is to avoid distractions otherwise he can't concentrate on the job at hand.
Just loosen up a little, give him some space. After all, it's not like he's home late all the time, right?

Answer 4

Hire a detective and don't wonder anymore.
It is annoying if you are innocent, but inconvenient enough to irritate if you are guilty. Freaking find out. Or be a 50's wife and be pleasant and happy and just don't care. What?
If I could go back to those early days, I would either investigate it myself or hire someone and make sure they take pictures. Don't confront him if you are right, just hide the evidence, coz that's what it is. Evidence for court.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have a reason to be suspicious! He says he's working late, so why can't you reach him at work? His cell phone is off as well---have you asked him why? Maybe you should ask one of his co-workers if they've noticed him working late.....or check his paycheck.
It would definitely make me go hmmmm....

Answer 6

Surprise him! Show up at his office after quitting time all dazzled up with hair done, make up on and a beautiful yet sexy dress. Tell him you wanted to have an evening with him, but surprise him. You will be able to tell by his reaction.

Answer 7

Cheaters always get annoyed when you question them. If that's paranoid, then I am paranoid too because I would be certain that he is cheating.

Answer 8

You can never be too paranoid! Start doing the same thing to him, and see what he says.

Answer 9

first off do you feel something's wrong? do you feel this in your gut? if you do check up on him not by trying to call but by stopping by his workplace. If he's working late does he get paid by the hour? check his paycheck to see if extra hours are in there.

Answer 10

Yes, my ex used to do that, too, cell phone always off when he ws gone, etc., he's married to her now.