Is my friend jealous of me cuz i have a college degree and she doesnt? can friends get jealous of you 4 that??

Question

My friend said my philosophy degree is worthless and she also said i was retarded. im beginning to hate this witch and i will ditch her as my friend soon. But I'm just curious why she would act so hateful to me when i always compliment her and I am a good friend?

Answer 1

She is not your friend. Real friends do not say hurtful things like that.

Answer 2

She may be your friend and really like you but be very disturbed and have low self-esteem. That is ultimately what jealousy is all about. Jealousy is very powerful and can overshadow feelings of love and friendship. It's too bad that this has a hold on her. It sounds like you are doing all you can by complimenting her and being a good friend. It's up to her to change, until then, don't let her get you down. It might be good to give her some distance and maybe she'll see how she has been acting. Good luck. Jealous people do not make good friends.

Answer 3

Could be jealously. A lot of times people will ‘assume’ you are merely ‘flaunting’ your intelligence in their face. You’re friend shouldn’t hate you for what you know. Cause that isn’t a real friend. A real friend would always stand by you through the decisions you made especially if they are the right ones. And you going to college and earning your degree defiantly doesn’t strike me as the ‘bad’ decision. I say you talk to her and tell her that if she feels that you are nothing and chooses to take your accomplishments as being retarded. Then she couldn’t possibly be your true friend. I realize that a lot of times when people can’t achieve their own personal goals they decide to push down others in anger of things they have been unable to attain. But a true friend would never be so shallow and narrow minded as to cast down her friends dreams simply because she has not lived up to her own.

Answer 4

Well let's start with the fact that friends don't speak to each other like that, regardless of whether or not it's true. Secondly, people get jealous for so many reasons, including no reason at all. When someone speaks to you that way it's usually because their feeling bad about themselves and it makes them feel a little better bringing you down with them. Misery loves company. But you know what? You earned that degree, who knows whether or not it'll be use full to you, it's all a matter of what you choose to do with yourself. Don't let anyone tear you down, friend, family or foe. Be strong and proud of who you are, if people can't respect you than you can't be bothered to let them into your life.

Answer 5

The bottom line is pure "Fear". Nothing in life exists other than love and fear. All jealousy is is fear of being inadequate. Its a shame people are like that but the world seems to be full of them. I had a gal once where I worked at and she keyed my car and burned the inside panels with a lighter and dumped water pitchers in my patients beds so I would have to do a bed strip. She was ruthless! What do you do though? I just opted to only work on her days off. Nothing in life is FREE, Karma always comes back to them. After keying my car this gal had her car repossessed! The rules of the universe are unavoidable. Don't say things to her your going to regret or pay a karmic debt for, just walk away! It takes energy to fight with someone.

Answer 6

My "best" friend, whom I've known for over 20 years, has issues with this, although she doesn't act the same way yours does. But if I'm going through a difficult time and I just need to vent, I'm unable to do that, because she'll just say things like, "well, at least you have a career" and so on, as if my life's challenges are irrelevant because I've achieved more than she has. It's frustrating for me, so I can relate to what you're going through!

Answer 7

yes friends do get jealous i get jealous of mine all the time but never to the point where i think there success is a waste then thats when u either talk to her or just stop bing her friend but try talking 1st if u really still wanna be friends lol but yea u should never treat a frined that way

Answer 8

I think you are absolutely right, your friend is jealous.

Not only that, but a real friend wouldn't say those sort of things. If she truly cared for you as a person, she would be thrilled that you're doing something wonderful and positive with your life.

I would dump her, too...but being the kind, intelligent, thoughful friend that you are do it gradually and just slowly withdraw from her life.

Good Luck~*

Answer 9

It's sounds like the old case of envy. Try telling her how this hurts you, and how it makes you want to end this friendship with her treating you so rotten. Yes, friends can be jealous over that. She's probably insecure, and what she calls you is how she feels.

Answer 10

People can be petty and jealous for a number of pitiful reasons. She isn't your friend if in fact she is jealous, or demeans you. She is trying to make herself feel better by putting you down, time to make new friends and move on....she will have it come around to her eventually.

Answer 11

I am sure..... there is at least one person in the world that can get jealous about everything imaginable.. this being one of those things! She feels incompetent and feels the need to compete w/ you in other ways because she is lacking in this area. Ditch her if she keeps it up, no one needs that type of negativity in their life!