Do you wish to turn back time and do some things over, which you would now do defferently., would you spend more time just to get to know your kids and play with them, to try to listen more and be more patient and less time worrying about the dust on the top of the refrigerator or the mess in the closet...?
2006-08-23 15:29:19 · 6 answers · asked by TRANSLOPEDIA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know, as a Single Parent (and one who survived a violent, horrid marriage) and with an ex who also abused the kids -- yes, I do reflect.
I wish I NEVER married in the first place. My ex's sperm donation meant that I had to also raise my two children to adulthood with mental disorders -- and that was so hard doing alone -- then he would also continue to try additional things -- like stealing from me, damaging my home/car, stalking, harassing, not paying child support, etc etc etc (which includes him just recently having robbed my home too).
I did what I could -- kept with my career and retired, raised them far away from where he settled (and divorce occurred), and was very patient with everything -- and did a LOT of things with the kids when I could -- but reality is that I HAD to work.
Even though I did devote all time outside of the job to my two -- they turned out to have problems into adulthood, which is something that can't be changed. I did everything, and I mean everything -- scouts, been there when they had boo-boos, active in their schools, active with their desired sports, shared special times with both of them, and in the end ... as adults, they made their choices, and not all of them are good.
So for me, my time is done. I did my best and had to sacrifice for more than 2 decades -- and that sacrifice (I feel) is still not appreciated by the two children I had. Do I think that eventually they may realize just how hard it was for me to do everything and care for them and to work to support all of us? Maybe not -- maybe so.
2006-08-23 15:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i would like to do over is not to get remarried when the kids were still in the house. What was I thinking. We dream that two families will mingle but that only happens on the brady bunch. Both my older children are fine with it and turned out great. I am the one with the guilt. Doubt if they were fine with it then.
2006-08-23 22:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any children, but I mostly hear complaints from people who do who regret the drunken mistakes they have made when celebrating because their children have run away.
I have gotten a few ideas from my mum about how to discipline my children also; for example, when they misbehave I will threaten to take them to the dentist as my mum did to my sisters and me. I don't think I will regret that, and it seems like a good idea. It worked on us at least!
2006-08-23 22:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! But, I'm only human. Something some childred don't understand until they walk in their parent's shoes. I just hope my kids know I love them very much and always will. They are my life.
2006-08-23 22:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish my parents could get a second chance, because now I see they meant well-but my brother is not so understanding...
2006-08-23 22:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by ArtisticallyUgly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would do it differently..she never had a baby sitter.took her everywhere.any she leaves her children 18mo.3yr.6ya all boys at home with any body.she doesn't work out side the house and has to wait for her husband to come home to help her clean.............wasn't raised that way,,,
2006-08-23 22:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋